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My grandson started seeing a therapist a few months ago.

He’s just now 12 and has some issues to work on. Nothing horrible, he’s angry because he has a mom who’s never been his mother and now a brother who she actually cares about. He’s angry for other reasons too, things that I knew he would find in his life one day and I told his dad we needed to do something now rather than later.

So he goes to this therapist who admits he himself has anger issues. He told my grandson this fun story…
One day on the way into work there was an erratic driver. One of those that hop in and out of traffic at high speed to get to where they are going. So, because this made the therapist angry he followed him. He followed him all the way to his destination, which was the erratic drivers place of work. The therapist went in and confronted him and this mans boss to let him know what a horrible driver he was and let his boss know it would be the right thing to do to fire him.
How unhinged is that??!!

I told his dad he needed a new therapist, but, this is the only child therapist in my town that takes insurance and has openings.

One day I got to go into therapy with the kid because his dad had to work.
He’s asking the kid questions, and the kid doesn’t really like this guy, doesn’t trust this guy and wont answer the questions. So I egg the kid along, I try to make him comfortable. I get him to talk a little bit. I answer the questions the therapist asks me about him. In this time the therapist let him know that he was wasting the therapists time and was so … angry really..by the time we left he was almost seething. At what?? No idea… understand why he has openings now.
The kid will never go back there.
Never take a child to ANY ! therapists they will do nothing but brainwash manipulate trick scam deciet backstab and get the child -children taken away and exspecinalky jevdr ever take a child - children to a male theripist they wilk touch feel rape molest get the child - children to say you did or caused things thats all therpists are good for and thus theriost is waisting it own time and must and needs to be fired and have its license talen away for everyones safety well bsing mentality and emotions 110% ! Clean and clear period !!!!!
@Manneeds I’m sorry. It sounds like you’ve been through some things!!
@nonsensiclesnail yes i have im speaking from 110% experience truth and honesty in and about therapists do not ever tell them anythibg do not trust them
popmol · 22-25, M
GOOD! at first i was like odd but fine with the driver thing, that's irresponsible!

but if someone doesn't trust their therapist/.psychologist/psychiatrist you should not go there! it will never help.
If he react like that and its not an understanding "i don't think i'm getting through to him or we can break this barrier between us, i think it might be best to try another therapist" then its time to leave leave a bad yelp review and go to another one!

maybe thats why he had spots open :p
@popmol I would love to find him a new one but all we get are waiting lists. Thing is, the kid doesn't want to go to therapy. I don't blame him. But if he found teh right person, it would be ok....maybe.
popmol · 22-25, M
@nonsensiclesnail you should try, i mean theres something wrong, and don't tell him it must feel like therapy, tell him its someone safe you can talk to that if you don't want them to tell your parents anything tthey don't have to.

an adult sure to be on their side.

well put him in all the waiting lists! its the easiest!
BobbyMoeven · 51-55, M
You totally did right by your grandson ..

That therapist was wrong kind of certified for sure ...
@BobbyMoeven absolutely he is.
when I was 12 I couldnt even spell therapist, let alone go to one. 🙄
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@NoThanksLeon lol. I could have spelled therapist at 12 but it’s phonetic and I was a phonetic speller.
I should have seen one at 12. But someone would have had to notice and also care. I notice and I care so much it hurts.


I suspect he was sexually molested by one of his mom’s lovers when he was quite small based on his behavior at the time but there wasn’t enough evidence to get anyone to act on my suspicion.

He used to beg his dad to not let his mom take him because his dad loves him.

Her first husband would smack him arround if he had mismatched socks on.
His mom only ever wanted time with him if she had someone to show him off to. When she was done with him she would leave him with whomever was around to return him home.
If I send him to her house with money she spends it. If he gets birthday or Christmas money from her family, it’s hers.
These are the few things I’ve learned from her friends and people who interacted with him while he was on her custody.
When he was 3 he started crying and begging me to not leave him in the car after a long weekend with his mother. This went on for months.
Oh and she loves to call the cops on his dad for fun. One of the times it was after she beat on my son, biting and hitting him. Thankfully the officer saw the bite marks and arrested her. But nothing came of it.
She’s finally lost custody and has given up her parental rights to him. But since she’s had a baby she’s decided she wants to be his mom again.

He refuses to talk about the time he spends with his mom. He won’t even share simple things such as watching a movie.

I know there are kids with harder, worse lives. He needs therapy.
Certainly sounds like you made the right decision.
DrWatson · 70-79, M
That's a shame!
@DrWatson I agree. I just want him to be... happy and good. how much he is loved and that relationships can be built in time, if he wants them. And that his little brother thinks he's is
the whole world.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
Some people should not work with children I’m sorry your grandson had a lousy experience
Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
So sad
He needs to confide in someone
@Strictmichael75 He really does. But he has a hard time saying anything to anyone. He's very very secretive and I would love to see him form a relationship with someone he feels like he can trust and confide in that isn't someone he feels like will be mad at him for what he says. He has been through a lot of emotional drama for a kid his age and he is right to be angry. I think he has seen some stuff with his mom in the times she would spend with him. I know she had an abusive boyfriend/ husband that did not leave him out of the abuse. plus everyone else she has dragged through his life. Some of them have been real gems. But there is only so much that I can do or try to teach him.
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@Northwest I live across the state from you. Spokane. I find it odd too. I was expecting this to be a one on one session at some point but in the 4 months he saw this fellow, his dad was asked to be present in every session. I don’t think my grandson ever had a chance to get comfortable with the guy. But, after meeting him I can understand why he didn’t like him.

His therapist felt that following g this man and confronting him was the proper way to deal with his anger. I’m baffled as to how he came to that conclusion except maybe his therapist is just as clever as he.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@nonsensiclesnail Did it ever occur to you that THAT might have been the POINT ?

'Don't take your anger out on those who love you. Confront the person you believe doesn't !"
By all means question a therapist's advice.
IN private. Away from a young patients hearing

But if all you do is withdraw a patient who can't consent, congratulations you just added to a problem.
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