My cousin told me the other day

That her husband might have cancer but they caught it early so they want to do a biopsy. Anyway he may be in the hospital for 5 days if they find that it is cancer. So she was complaining that if he's in the hospital for 5 days that means she'll have to drive there and back every day. She knows that 5 years ago when my dad was in nursing homes and hospitals that there wasn't 1 day that I didn't go see him before he died. I drove 40 minutes to, and 40 minutes from wherever he was . Be it nursing home or hospital for 3 months. And she has the audacity to say 5 days is going to be terrible to go see her husband.

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IM5688 · 61-69, M

While she may be self centered and seemingly uncaring, it may be the only way she can deal with such a serious and/or possibly traumatic situation.
Sometimes one has to remove themselves from a situation to regroup their thoughts, thinking about and making decisions as to what to do, how to do it and when to do it, what the future holds, etc.

melissa001 · 51-55, F

@IM5688 yeah I get that. But my cousins always seam to complain about stuff I've already gone through without complaining. For example... when my dad died I had to go through the whole funeral arrangements by myself. I took care of power of attorney long before that and a lot of other things. So when her parents were getting really bad I told them what they should start preparing for. They ignored me . So when their parents died all hell broke loose and they couldn't handle anything . There is 6 kids in the family but they were all complaining that now they had to get things together. They had to have meetings with each other. They couldn't decide on the funeral arrangements. But not once did they say anything about how I went through all this by myself. It makes me feel like I don't exist.

IM5688 · 61-69, M

@melissa001 You are a take charge, get what needs to done, person. You can handle anything that comes your way.
They obviously can't. But every family has people like that.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@melissa001 Life lesson: Never expect commendations from people who don’t measure up.