My cousin told me the other day

@Blondily there relationship isn't like that. They love each other but don't like each other

@IM5688 yeah I get that. But my cousins always seam to complain about stuff I've already gone through without complaining. For example... when my dad died I had to go through the whole funeral arrangements by myself. I took care of power of attorney long before that and a lot of other things. So when her parents were getting really bad I told them what they should start preparing for. They ignored me . So when their parents died all hell broke loose and they couldn't handle anything . There is 6 kids in the family but they were all complaining that now they had to get things together. They had to have meetings with each other. They couldn't decide on the funeral arrangements. But not once did they say anything about how I went through all this by myself. It makes me feel like I don't exist.

@melissa001 You are a take charge, get what needs to done, person. You can handle anything that comes your way.
They obviously can't. But every family has people like that.

@melissa001 Life lesson: Never expect commendations from people who don’t measure up.

@SlaveEt that sums it up.

@Osogris hardly. She does everything for him. He verbally abuses her all the time. She has to work while he stays home and doesn't do anything. He doesn't want her to go anywhere and makes her cry all the time. So I can understand why she doesn't want to go. I was just saying that she was complaining about how many days she'd have to visit him.

@Lostpoet she will definitely go. She just complains about it.

@Melissa501 she's an angel compared to him. He tells her what to do. She has a factory job even though she has back and leg problems while he sits at home. He verbally abused her.

@OlderSometimesWiser so true.