Oversharing with Someone I Don't Trust

So there's this person that I talk to. She's an acquaintance, but I don't trust her. I keep reminding myself that whenever I have a conversation with her, I shouldn't overshare. But somehow she makes you feel comfortable with her, and I end up sharing way more about my life than I wanted to. I'm tired of making this mistake. How can I seriously improve this? I know I shouldn't associate with people I don't trust, but this person is a coworker, so the association and interaction is inevitable. Sigh.

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Penny · 46-50, F

Just when she asks nosy questions. Say i dont know in a congenial manner then bring up whatever it is youre working on at work lol. Thatll make her skedaddle lol

SWUser193 · 22-25, F

@Penny haha. I like that. Thanks. I thought about saying that, but I wondered if it might come across as "harsh" and "friendly". But she doesn't have good intentions when questioning me about things aside from work.

Penny · 46-50, F

@SWUser193 well. If you dont trust her... there must be a reason.

LamontCranston · M

You shouldn't associate with someone you do not trust.

SWUser193 · 22-25, F

@LamontCranston I understand. I don't have a choice though. She's a coworker, so by default, I have to associate with her.

LamontCranston · M

@SWUser193 Make a mental list of subjects you don't want to discuss and avoid them or answer in vague generalities if she broaches them.

SWUser193 · 22-25, F

@LamontCranston Thank you.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

By having a therapist. You can never overshare in therapy.

JonLosAngeles66 · M

Why don't you trust her?

SWUser193 · 22-25, F

@JonLosAngeles66 long story.

bijouxbroussard · F

Only you can control what you say to her. You have to resolve to keep your interactions to only what’s necessary and related to the job. I’ve had co-workers like this, so I get that it’s not easy. 🙁

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