I now understand why some people say "my child saved my life"
I think I would've turned out okay regardless but the day I found out I was gonna have a baby I went into overdrive.
My ankle was broken but I walked MILES every day.
I lived with my dad at the time (not for free of course) but I immediately started paying my gf's rent & later moved in with her. Then right after the baby was born we got our first place together & I definitely couldn't have done it without her but I handled the work of moving everything & repainting/repairing the last apartment. Made sure my gf got every penny back from her deposit.
No matter what we have going on or how hectic stuff gets, I somehow manage to not panic or worry. I know what I'm capable of & I make it happen. Even when my gf panics I do my best to reassure her but I've come to understand that she can't relax until she sees the plan. So just because I see the plan doesn't mean she does too... Which has pushed me into communicating better & letting her know what's going on in my head. That way she doesn't have to worry as much.
I never used to be the type to make plans. I've always been the "go with the flow" type & I guess I still largely am. But I've learned to plan a lot more & stick to the plan exactly. I'd say the main reason for that is because having my daughter gave me a reason for life to matter.
Maybe I never cared enough about myself to change my life... but I love my baby so much I'd give my life for her in a heartbeat. But that doesn't mean dying in order to save her life. It means living to give her one.
I've done a lot of dumb "manly" shit in my life but nothing has ever made me feel more like a man than taking care of my family
My ankle was broken but I walked MILES every day.
I lived with my dad at the time (not for free of course) but I immediately started paying my gf's rent & later moved in with her. Then right after the baby was born we got our first place together & I definitely couldn't have done it without her but I handled the work of moving everything & repainting/repairing the last apartment. Made sure my gf got every penny back from her deposit.
No matter what we have going on or how hectic stuff gets, I somehow manage to not panic or worry. I know what I'm capable of & I make it happen. Even when my gf panics I do my best to reassure her but I've come to understand that she can't relax until she sees the plan. So just because I see the plan doesn't mean she does too... Which has pushed me into communicating better & letting her know what's going on in my head. That way she doesn't have to worry as much.
I never used to be the type to make plans. I've always been the "go with the flow" type & I guess I still largely am. But I've learned to plan a lot more & stick to the plan exactly. I'd say the main reason for that is because having my daughter gave me a reason for life to matter.
Maybe I never cared enough about myself to change my life... but I love my baby so much I'd give my life for her in a heartbeat. But that doesn't mean dying in order to save her life. It means living to give her one.
I've done a lot of dumb "manly" shit in my life but nothing has ever made me feel more like a man than taking care of my family
