Love takes time... (I wrote he because I date mostly men, not generalizing or picking)

Maybe I'm a slow poke, but I'm so confused how people fall (or seem to fall) in love so quickly.

I've heard it a million times and within weeks of meeting...

"I'm falling for you already"
"I'd marry someone like you"
"You got me sprung"
"You're end game"
"I think I love you"

First off, how the fuck do people have those kinds of feelings after days?? How do you tell someone you know nothing about that you love them?

Which leads to secondly, why am I expected to believe them? Because every time it goes like that, he ends up being a user and/or a psycho. It seems to last about a few months. Right about the time I'm getting warmed up and starting to trust, he starts freaking out. I've heard it all tbh. That I'm a liar, cheater, fake, selfish, narcissist, bitch. All because I didn't follow his schedule?

Or what? What is it?

You can tell when he's full of shit, but I've known some to start putting their eggs in my basket after one date. Even well meaning, that's FAST.

Am I just slow?

Is this why I can't find a partner? Because I can't fall in love on the first date? Because by the eigth date the facade is over and he's being a dick, and I'm not okay with that?

Or is this how we date now? Love bombing and running through each other so fast?

I just can't wrap my head around any of it.