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Why it's hard to find Good relationships in our era ???

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lonelyloner · 31-35, F Best Comment

bcoz now everything is for benefits , just give and take relation

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Hougal · 31-35, M

@lonelyloner I can't!!! You truly said the TRUTH!!!!

lonelyloner · 31-35, F

@Hougal thanx as i had gone through with it and no one else better than me knew about it

Hougal · 31-35, M

@lonelyloner You're welcome!!! Okays

lwshm64 · 56-60, F

Men nowadays want a. Maid, Wallet. or a hole form my experience. Women aren't much better they take advantage of men so, It's hard out their. I hate trying to find someone. Because a lot think you meet online and you automatically in a relationship. And the younger Men around 30-35 think they want an older women but have no idea how to treat us.

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@lwshm64 And many of the men and woman who have been around the block once or twice have sustained a little battle damage and are wary, or even looking for a chance to strike out at the first sign of trouble..Leaving little chance of forgiveness..😷

Hougal · 31-35, M

@lwshm64 True!

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

As someone who did his relationship forming in a different era, I have a few thoughts. First, the internet wasnt there. Now you can satisfy so many personal needs without standing up. Let alone talking to a real person. Second, people have become more transactional. Whats in this for me... So they arent expecting to offer up more time or effort without a guaranteed return..So budding relationships never get off the ground. And material lifestyles demand more time at work. So there is less leasure time for many people..😷

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Mirage · F

@whowasthatmaskedman Lot of truth here. Social media has defo hindered the real physical aspect of relationships. People don't have to put out the real true effort to maintain one. It's easy to play it and discard it if it doesn't suit them.

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@Mirage And I honestly believe that both sides expect to get at least as much out of a relationship as they put in.. Too much stress and it is easy to quit..😷

Mirage · F

@whowasthatmaskedman And you don't have to face them in RL so it's easier to quit. It's kind of sad to me that society has become this.

I'm so thankful for my RL relationships. They are solid!

black4white · 56-60, M

Well most of it from my observation is that people skills are going down the drain ...since all this online stuff has stepped in and taken the place of REAL and TRUE human interaction. So much so that kids and young adults like to do life online which is fine( not really) but this takes away from playing with PEOPLE in person. This helps to learn how to deal with people and see your own faults instead of just hiding behind a computer ... This is like a full on book to be written... hahaha

Anyways i am sure you get my drift...its the new way and i feel even worse for the younger generations

Hougal · 31-35, M

@black4white You explain All!!!!
Young Generation (mine) is doomed!!!

Hougal · 31-35, M

Good idea 💡 for writing a book 📚
This topic deserve a Book writing

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@black4white I agree with you completely. But as a side issue let me raise this. Good manners have always been used as social lubricant. People stayed within the lines to get along..Great. except that once firmly in a relationship, like marraige, the shine often wears off and you get to see the underlying person much too late. After being committed and some stress applied.. On line you often get to see the unfiltered inner person immediately...Look at some of the comments thrown around here by the big brave souls hiding in their parents basement..😷

Fairydust · F

People have too many issues they haven’t delt with. 😑

Hougal · 31-35, M

@Fairydust Fact.

GLITTER · 36-40, F

@Fairydust so true

Morvoren · F

Its not. You just need to look in the right places and put the work in.

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Hougal · 31-35, M

@Morvoren Okay.. I understand now ! Thanks you for your explanation!!!! :)

Morvoren · F

@Hougal No worries.

Hougal · 31-35, M

@Morvoren okay :)

KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F

Because we live in a world where you can’t really hide your past. Everything you do leaves a digital fingerprint and lack of one makes you “suspicious”

Hougal · 31-35, M

@KaysHealingPath
Right!!!!

KingofBones1 · 46-50, M

Because nowadays it's money and material things that judge a person's worth. It's sad

Hougal · 31-35, M

@KingofBones1 VERY sad!!!!

KingofBones1 · 46-50, M

@Hougal Just like now. I'm gonna be forever judged by a felony jaccet. It is. But that's the world we live in. It'll get better. Well maybe not. But we gotta believe.

Hougal · 31-35, M

@KingofBones1 I don't think that it Will gonna better... Because we lost many value that our predecessorcentury or millenium kept well before!!!

sstronaut

I think it's been true for all eras, we just white wash history and talk about how much better those times where, but when you look into the details there was a lot of cheating then...

And a lot less cared about cheating... there is stories about people cheating on their spouse and nothing they could do.

Only difference is we break up more often because that's more socially acceptable now.