How would you feel if your therapist said this?

I was discussing dating and my intimidation with men. How I want to date but don't feel enough.. due to my issues. I liked she Said I don't need to heal all my Issues or be Perfect to date. That men will have issues too. But then She said "You have a lot of anxiety. You may always have it. It is who you are.. "
On one hand i get she meant to kind oF not be ashamed of my disorder. But on the Other hand it is not who I AM. It is a result of trauma and not truly me. I just let it go but not sure how to Feel...how might you feel?

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HootyTheNightOwl

In a way, your anxiety probably always will be a part of you... just like your left hand or your right ear.

At the same time, I can see why "It is who you are" could sting a bit... I mean, none of us are the total sum of whatever ailments we have and he choice of wording could have been better thought out to reflect that it will likely always be a PART of you rather than making it sound like the grand sum of "who you are".