How would you feel if your therapist said this?

I was discussing dating and my intimidation with men. How I want to date but don't feel enough.. due to my issues. I liked she Said I don't need to heal all my Issues or be Perfect to date. That men will have issues too. But then She said "You have a lot of anxiety. You may always have it. It is who you are.. "
On one hand i get she meant to kind oF not be ashamed of my disorder. But on the Other hand it is not who I AM. It is a result of trauma and not truly me. I just let it go but not sure how to Feel...how might you feel?

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I wouldn’t think of it or worry too much. Maybe she meant that you might always have it IF that’s the kind of person you are. Some people can overcome their problems, while others can’t. I’d give her the benefit of the doubt that she didn’t mean to call you weak, hopeless, or anything like that.

I think she was giving you the green light to put yourself out there, despite your anxiety. It’s like she meant to say that if you’re feeling too anxious to date, then maybe you won’t date at all. With that being said, you SHOULD go date even with all the issues you may have since men have issues too.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@SW-User Ty Deth🦋