How would you feel if your therapist said this?

I was discussing dating and my intimidation with men. How I want to date but don't feel enough.. due to my issues. I liked she Said I don't need to heal all my Issues or be Perfect to date. That men will have issues too. But then She said "You have a lot of anxiety. You may always have it. It is who you are.. "
On one hand i get she meant to kind oF not be ashamed of my disorder. But on the Other hand it is not who I AM. It is a result of trauma and not truly me. I just let it go but not sure how to Feel...how might you feel?

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AccursedAlexander3 · 31-35, M

I think it’s perfectly natural to be nervous around someone you’re attracted to, especially if you don’t know how they feel about you. I imagine royalty and celebrities and other rich people still get nervous meeting people they’re fans of, so nothing to be ashamed of. I personally hate therapy. I go currently, not happy to admit it, mostly for family, but I do it, and it makes my family more comfortable. Bit of a side note, that, but what I’m trying to say is be yourself. I smoke weed, and that usually helps with my anxiety. I’d let it go, if I were in your shoes, maybe smoke some weed on my next date, if I’m still feeling anxious or nervous, and if it’s problematic for them, end it. Or maybe for me, since I don’t know how anxious you personally feel. Make sense?