How would you feel if your therapist said this?

I was discussing dating and my intimidation with men. How I want to date but don't feel enough.. due to my issues. I liked she Said I don't need to heal all my Issues or be Perfect to date. That men will have issues too. But then She said "You have a lot of anxiety. You may always have it. It is who you are.. "
On one hand i get she meant to kind oF not be ashamed of my disorder. But on the Other hand it is not who I AM. It is a result of trauma and not truly me. I just let it go but not sure how to Feel...how might you feel?

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SinlessOnslaught · 26-30, M

I understand what you're saying. You want to separate yourself from your anxiety because it reassures that you can defeat it. And I'm sure your therapist understands that too.

Language is an abstract thing. I think what she meant is you are who you are right now, in the moment. And right now you're a person who suffers from anxiety. That doesn't mean you won't be a "you" who doesn't suffer from anxiety in the future.

I think you should bring this up to her and tell her exactly what you just told us.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@SinlessOnslaught Thanks for your reflective reply🌺

ninalanyon · 61-69, T

@SinlessOnslaught @Coralmist

I think you should bring this up to her and tell her exactly what you just told us.

I think this might be the most important point. So many of us spend so much of our lives not saying what we mean or not saying anything at all.

SinlessOnslaught · 26-30, M

@ninalanyon Thanks