Too much acceptance and rejection are nearer than we think... and can easily flip around.

I'm seeing this in my reality. There's this guy I share the house with that's tilting towards the rejection scale.
Then there's another one that I've met who's going towards the over acceptance.
And it bothers me equally, in similar ways.
As if I can't enjoy just being.
As if in the avoidant scenario I can't be fully myself because he's pulling away.
And in the clinging scenario I can be fully myself but wouldn't matter as every single of my gestures are met as if it were the same thing.

I'm met with a need for boundaries..