@nedkelly A beautiful era for design. I remember seeing a Brough Superior on the road once back in the Sixties. Someone was visiting a neighbour. And maybe one or two in museums. Pretty rare and exclusive.
@AbbeyRhode Completely different story. I have yet to cross that bridge, but I would think getting back to extended family dinners might help. Keep him out of trouble. As I recall, my midlife crisis involved being places I shouldn't have been.
@carpediem I accept those points but that’s what the art of conversation is for. When things went wrong in my previous marriage and I was begging for the help to fix it from him and he knew the problem and it was fixable, I made it plain how desperate the situation was getting so he was in no doubt where it would lead. Then he had no reason to be surprised when I filed for divorce. Men need to make sure their wives/partners know what a desperate predicament they find themselves in, make themselves heard then if they still go elsewhere that’s on the wife/partner.
@Primnproper Good communication. That's the most important single attribute a couple can share. Those who see and value its importance flourish. Those that don't suffer or are driven apart.
It takes two people to fix a problem in marriage. Shame he never understood what you were trying to make him see.
Let him work it out on his own. There's nothing a mother can do that will be effective. If he wants to buy a motorcycle, or go on a long vacation cross country, that's all to the good. He will work it out of his system.
If, on the other hand, he is dumping his wife and kids for a 19 year old blonde, then you will have to have a mother/son talk...of the "this, too shall pass" sort.