Judgemental people

So my kids had volleyball games on Saturday. Both their teams one.

Anyway as with everything I do I try and sit or stand away from the crowd. I did have a few outbursts but nothing to bad. A called out a few choice words and facial tics.

A new mother of the team walked down to me and looked at me. She said I should stay home and let the kids mother come to their games.

I told her I was a single dad and there mom left us.

She said well I can see why. Maybe if you can't control yourself you shouldn't enroll your children into these types of activities, or let someone else bring them.

I didn't even know what to say.

Is she right should I just stay home and come

Top | Newest First | Oldest First

SunshineGirl · 36-40, F

It sounds as though you are effectively managing similar situations with the other parents and this was a one off incident with a new parent who did not know you.

I think she was too hasty to make a judgment and it is sad that she thinks your kids should miss out mainly because she feels uncomfortable.

Poppies · 61-69, F

I don't know what to say. If she knows you have Tourette's, she is pretty heartless. I wonder if you should carry little cards to hand to people like her, saying you have Tourette's? If I had never heard of it and met someone having an outburst, I would probably be weirded out, although I wouldn't confront them.
I'm just thinking out loud. I don't know what you should do. Your kids know that you love them so much that you put yourself out there for them.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@Poppies her child was new to the team. Because of my tourettes I do speak to all the parents about my outbursts. But I've never seen her before. I do have a medical alert bracelet that I wear all the time saying I have it.

Honestly if not for the kids I probably would not put myself in this spot. I would probably just stay home most of the time. But they can't live like that so I put myself out there. It wasn't been easy though

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

you shouldn't enroll your children into these types of activities

The children should not have to suffer.

At the same time, I think it depends on the crowd. I believe your reaction to a game did not sit well with the type of crowd. I don't know what you said or did, so I'm not sure if it was inappropriate.

The way she approached the situation was wrong though.
Let the kids play. Do not let a bad day turn you into a horrible person.

SW-User

It's wildly inappropriate. People came to watch their kids, not listen to someone aggressively yelling about sports. It's a kids game, a family event, yell at your TV at home when you watch football, not kids.

That lady was right.

View 3 more replies »

SW-User

@Cigarguy101 No you are doing an excellent job. Hun, it may just be time to not worry about it. Let people judge you. They don't understand.

I judged you at first too. I made assumptions and that's hurtful. I'm sorry.

Your kids understand, truly that's all that matters. You're there for them, that's everything.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@SW-User thank you for that. It's very kind of you to say. When I post I do tend to forget not everyone knows my history lol.

SW-User

@Cigarguy101 It taught me a very important lesson today. And I hope I showed you how clueless people can be when they don't understand.

Threepio

No. She is not right.

My reply would have been:

OK Karen...!

Add a comment...