Pressure for marriage my gf from india who is illegal here in the UK is reallt good to me. its...

You're in a difficult situation.
Nobody should marry someone they're not sure about.
And certainly not to someone if they're in the country illegally.
It leaves you open to accusations of everything from trafficking to slavery !

Of course she's in a bigger mess !
If she's working she's doing so without a valid visa.
If she isn't ....how is she supporting herself ?

Primnproper · 56-60, F

Never be pressured into marriage. It’s hard enough without going into it for the wrong reasons. Could it be she’s trying to secure her place over here and that’s why she’s applying the pressure.
Just explain you’re still young and don’t wish to rush into such a big decision. What about getting engaged, at least then if things don’t work out it’s easier to end than a marriage.

robertsnj · 56-60, M

just be honest with her. If you dated for over 1 year you know if you want to marry her or not.

If you like dating her but not marrying her be up front and say that instead of "not ready yet"

It is ok that you don't want to be married to her but stringing her along with "maybe someday" is really cruel.