A self-entitled bloke at my work basically told me at age 55 I don't deserve to be a parent again and my daughter doesn't deserve to exist !
So a bloke at work has taken offence to me wanting to try and have a new relationship because I'm 55 with adult kids and chose to become a parent again with my now second ex (with whom I have my beautiful 6 y/o daughter). My second ex is 49 now and she's still single too.
Wow. He basically said that my daughter doesn't deserve to exist, I don't deserve to have a rewarding adult sexual relationship, and I don't have the right to have chosen to be a dad again.
I know that my choice to be a dad again has ruined basically all my chances of dating and mutually rewarding sexual adult relationships, but I'm at peace with it.
What I'm not at peace with is that I did not expect mature women on dating sites and in real life would be so up-the-own-arses selfish that someone who's hard working with kids at home would be like second class scum to them because I can't be 100 pct available to them exclusively for romance, travel, etc. I won't even bother to try and be available romantically to women like that.
I love my daughter (and my adult kids) and sure without my second ex my life would have been massively different, and I probably would not have the same living, social, employment, and personal situation, or my beautiful 6 y/o daughter who I love with all my heard but I accept my failings and the consequences of my actions because they make me who I am. I can't do a Cher and 'turn back time' to change the outcome.
I am allowed to be angry, hurt, confused, disenfranchised and basically annoyed that even without my ASD type issues I'm not worthy of genuine romantic affection and acceptance of me for me, not who or what all the crazy single women seem to expect a man to be. TBH, plenty of them would be just as burnt as me from their own life experiences.
Good thing the bloke didn't say it to my face at work because I would have immediately reported him to HR, and told my supervisor I have to go home. I could go postal at the bloke but that achieves nothing.
Wow. He basically said that my daughter doesn't deserve to exist, I don't deserve to have a rewarding adult sexual relationship, and I don't have the right to have chosen to be a dad again.
I know that my choice to be a dad again has ruined basically all my chances of dating and mutually rewarding sexual adult relationships, but I'm at peace with it.
What I'm not at peace with is that I did not expect mature women on dating sites and in real life would be so up-the-own-arses selfish that someone who's hard working with kids at home would be like second class scum to them because I can't be 100 pct available to them exclusively for romance, travel, etc. I won't even bother to try and be available romantically to women like that.
I love my daughter (and my adult kids) and sure without my second ex my life would have been massively different, and I probably would not have the same living, social, employment, and personal situation, or my beautiful 6 y/o daughter who I love with all my heard but I accept my failings and the consequences of my actions because they make me who I am. I can't do a Cher and 'turn back time' to change the outcome.
I am allowed to be angry, hurt, confused, disenfranchised and basically annoyed that even without my ASD type issues I'm not worthy of genuine romantic affection and acceptance of me for me, not who or what all the crazy single women seem to expect a man to be. TBH, plenty of them would be just as burnt as me from their own life experiences.
Good thing the bloke didn't say it to my face at work because I would have immediately reported him to HR, and told my supervisor I have to go home. I could go postal at the bloke but that achieves nothing.
