Someone at work told my friend that I look like a "bike racer". I'm pretty confused as to what that could mean?

It suddenly made my feel like I don't have a feminine enough body. I mean it's true. My mother bitterly calls me a man every time I dress up for work because I'm pretty flat front and back and I'm thin and lean and tall. I just don't look feminine in work suits. And that makes me sad. I could wear dresses to work too but that looks too extra.... Too eye catching. Probably not professional. But I wasn't expecting this from a coworker.

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Penny · 46-50, F

theres a girl at my work who would fit that description. lean and skinny is all. and she has a short hairstyle. at first i thought she looked kind of masculine but after working next to her for a day and getting a dose of her sweet smile and demeanor i changed my mind. i think she is very pretty and alluring now. dont let one person's insensitive comment get you down. looks arent everything either. if you want to feel more feminine without resorting to dresses maybe wear a nice bracelet or jewelry or somehting if you can? b ti doubt you need it. besides, bike racers are fit and healthy. maybe they meant it as a compliment.

Whodunnit · M

Perhaps they meant lean, athletic, and fit.

Unfortunately folks have to be very careful about compliments these days as some people misconstrue them as an unwanted advance. "You're looking very pretty today" can end up with a dismissal.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@Whodunnit yeah I know the context it was spoken in and the rest of the conversation so don't try to defend it.

Whodunnit · M

@assemblingaknob I wasn't defending anything, just giving an alternate possibility. You did say that you were confused as to what they meant by it.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@Whodunnit I knew it was supposed to be offensive, just not sure whether it was about my body or about my work suits. Or both.

Bleak · 36-40, F

Body shaming has to stop some day.

PepsiColaP

Honestly i wish my body was like that haha ,modelling agencies look out for girls with small chests because most cuts /styles fit easily and nice

Reflection2 · M

Who told you that, flat body doesn't have a market out there 😂

All kid of man for all kind of women 😉

SW-User

Let's see

caccoon · 36-40

Wear whatever you want and what you feel comfortable in. ☺️

SW-User

Wow, you do look more like a flu carrier that going to work to infect everyone

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