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How to tell potentially new employer I’m 7 months pregnant?

Hey guys.. I was recently offered a job working in the same industry. I’m an expert in this role and could genuinely help the company. The whole role is remote, contract.. and I wasn’t up front about being pregnant during the first interview because I wasn’t even sure the job would be a fit and also legally I’m supposedly not obligated to. Well they’ve just offered me the job almost on the spot after interview #1 and they want me to fly up and meet their team but the truth is I’m 7 months pregnant. I’m planning to take only a 2 week maternity leave and I do have subcontractors who can help fulfill some of the work while I’m out.. but something tells me as soon as I disclose this that the employer will get so freaked out. How do I go about this? They also want to do a virtual meeting with the whole team and I’m like should I pull the person who offered me the job aside and tell them before that meeting? Or go through with the meeting? And tell him after? Help !

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Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

Lol dude I’m still not officially even hired. I haven’t accepted any offers. I’ve have one interview with them and then was sent an email about them basically wanting to hire me@swirlie yes I’m only taking a 2 week maternity leave like I did with my first.. this is really negative advice.. 12 months? No one in the US takes off 12 months. The most we are allowed legally is 6-12 weeks and that’s only if you’ve worked for the employer for a year.

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Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

@swirlie I own my own company like this is for a contract position. I’m thinking plenty clearly. This is a logical question. One that many women here in the US have to ask. Just because you have a baby doesn’t mean you stop working or stop taking on new business. With my last pregnancy I worked literally the day I went into labor and was back 2 weeks later. Many many Pregnant women and new mothers are extremely capable.I wasn’t asking for you opinion on how I should handle leave, I’m asking like how to disclose this.. obviously I have a right legally to not disclose it in the first interview.. they got excited and wanted to hire me on the spot and now I’m in a dilemma as to how to explain it to them. Seriously go fly of your handle about how leave should be handled and how “wrong” keeping some amount of privacy when it comes to ones health situation is in the first interview - elsewhere

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Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

@swirlie you crazy. I did this with my first child and she is an angel and the happiest kid I know. And many mothers here do this. What about mothers who can’t even afford maternity leave? It’s not required here and there are often mothers who live in poverty and yes have to start working immediately after birth. What in the world are you talking about 😂 this isn’t deceitful and I’m not pretending I can multi task. I most certainly have and can..you clearly don’t have kids and are out of touch

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Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

Ok 👌 if that makes you feel better to believe that. Lol you are clearly a troll 😂. Why would you be this unkind to someone asking a simple question @swirlie like go mind you're own business at this point.

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Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

These are some really weird assumptions. I’m a happily married woman with a successful career.. a beautiful happy child and another on the way. Nothing you are saying makes sense and is really unkind.You clearly have some issues @swirlie

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Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

@swirlie this isn’t undermining or lacking integrity. Im seeking advice on how to disclose this information in the best way possible. Can you please stop calling my story idiotic? And saying my story isn’t real? In fact I’d really appreciate if you got off this thread. It’s really not nice and borderline harassment at this point.

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Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

@swirlie again. This isn’t fraudulent. Fraudulent would be not disclosing this at all.. you are making assumptions I couldn’t fulfill obligations. I have subcontractors I work with and other long term jobs, 3 actually who are continuing as normal with the knowledge that I pregnant and have help to fill in the gap while I’m gone for this short period of time. Again, could you please leave the thread? You’re just hurling negative and accusatory, untrue stuff. Yes it’s harassment at this point because I’ve asked several times for you to stop

Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F

@swirlie this is supposed to be a safe place to share opinions and ask questions without being harassed and ridiculed. You’ve shared your opinion. We all know how you feel. Why do you continue to berate and hammer in the negativity? Obviously we disagree. This is my thread and safe space and there is zero purpose for you to continue to act this way towards me or accuse my story of being untrue or idiotic.. you’ve already done that. Now move on.