Do anxious people get on your nerves?
Despite me knowing damn well that anxiety is a very serious issue for some people, I've never been able to shake-off my initial feelings about it. I feel like it's always about the most unimportant shit people get anxious about. Don't get me wrong though, I know what anxiety is like. In fact, it often happens I get anxious but I never know why. My heart just starts beating super fast and I'm like ''This is weird'' then I go on with my day as if nothing happened. For example earlier this day (which is kind of why I made this post) I talked to a girl of our group project, asked her questions and made suggestions on what could be improved upon on the part she wrote. She started crying because of it. I wasn't even mean or anything (at least I hope so). She said she wasn't angry at me or anything after it. It's just how she reacts to criticism. I don't understand how you could get so worked-up about a trivial thing like someone telling you you should swap a word for another on a certain sentence. It's so childish. I understand it's something you can't always control but that's my reaction to it. Don't confuse somebody else's inability to interact with you in a kind, calm, civil manner without causing you anxiety, upsetting you, bringing you down, stressing you out, causing you fear of retaliation, whatever the case may be, with you having anxiety, depression, or any other mental health struggle. They're the problem, not you. They need to learn how to get their point across, or get you to do something, without making you feel that way. You don't need to learn to "lighten up" or otherwise put up with them, and there's probably nothing actually "wrong" with you, especially if you don't react this way to everybody. If you eventually cut people who make you feel this way out of your life, you may notice a night and day difference in your mood every day/general disposition and happiness. People with anxiety, what is something in particular you struggle doing that most people have no problems with? Does anyone ever feel like you make people nervous, or that people act nervous/reserved around you?
Like people can be super outgoing and spontaneous with others but with you they’re the opposite? Formerly anxious people of Reddit: How did you become less anxious? I’m a shy, quiet, anxious, and nervous person, but I’m at peace with it now.
For the longest time I used to think there was something wrong with me because ever since I was a kid I was always shy, quiet, and nervous around new people and in most, if not all, social situations. Recently I’ve begun to think otherwise for the first time in my life, and I actually feel way more confident than I used to. I feel that this who I am, and yes they are my limitations, but these are what make me who I am so I’m sort of proud that I can accept that now. I used to wish that I could be more open and extroverted like people I went to school with or friends I had. I always stutter my words, I can never make and keep eye contact, and I’m unable to make coherent thoughts out loud, but that’s how it is for me. Don’t get me wrong, I still can’t keep a conversation going or maintain good relationships most of the time, but I try. I’m not ashamed of it. At 28 years of age, I think I’m finally at peace with being the nervous person I am. It isn’t easy, it never is, but I don’t think I’d change anything. Anxious people, what is the worst part of anxiety for you? Anxious people of reddit: What do people do that makes you terribly anxious, but people don't know it does?
I get anxious about pretty much everything. Figured I cant be the only one I kind of get anxious around people of different races, but it's not what you think. It's hard to explain, but every time someone who isn't caucasian per say, I get even more anxious. I guess it isn't because I'm afraid of THEM, I think it's because I'm afraid of screwing up or making them upset more than usual and having them think that I'm racist. But I'm not racist. I think of everyone as equal, and see them as who they are: humans. Again it's hard to explain. I just needed to get this out in the open and maybe get some advice or something. I dont know. Thanks for reading I guess. Have you ever found yourself attracted (guy or girl) to someone who is just... very zen? Very calm, collective, and makes you feel very comfortable?
You ever just see that person that just kinda seems to have it somehow figure it out? No anxieties, just chilling in the present moment, and makes you feel so comfortable and able to be yourself freely? What helped you cope or overcome an insecure, anxious and nervous personality?
Thank you all so much for your helpful answers!
Here are the recommendations that I read most often in the comments:
regular exercise / gym
working on your mindset and negative thought patterns; question negative thoughts; embrace yourself and your anxious thoughts
therapy
mindful exercises like meditation and yoga
no one actually cares as much about you as you do
regular confrontation with what makes you anxious (having a job or working f.e. in retail, meeting people, ...)
find stability in healthy habits (fitness, food, journaling, hobbies, ...) and friendships/relationships
But there were actually way more helpful comments, so I recommend to read further :)
Do you feel as if social anxiety made you lose your personality?
Other
I was always a relatively anxious person, but after having acne and staying indoors for a whole year, my dormant social anxiety became too alarming to ignore. I often think back to when I was less socially anxious. I had a personality, I wasn’t afraid of being individual, I could talk for hours, I had a great sense of humour, etc. Now I can’t even hold a 2 minute conversation. Does anyone else feel as if they’ve lost a part of themselves, or at least their personality because of social anxiety? And does anyone know how to help with this?
Like people can be super outgoing and spontaneous with others but with you they’re the opposite? Formerly anxious people of Reddit: How did you become less anxious? I’m a shy, quiet, anxious, and nervous person, but I’m at peace with it now.
For the longest time I used to think there was something wrong with me because ever since I was a kid I was always shy, quiet, and nervous around new people and in most, if not all, social situations. Recently I’ve begun to think otherwise for the first time in my life, and I actually feel way more confident than I used to. I feel that this who I am, and yes they are my limitations, but these are what make me who I am so I’m sort of proud that I can accept that now. I used to wish that I could be more open and extroverted like people I went to school with or friends I had. I always stutter my words, I can never make and keep eye contact, and I’m unable to make coherent thoughts out loud, but that’s how it is for me. Don’t get me wrong, I still can’t keep a conversation going or maintain good relationships most of the time, but I try. I’m not ashamed of it. At 28 years of age, I think I’m finally at peace with being the nervous person I am. It isn’t easy, it never is, but I don’t think I’d change anything. Anxious people, what is the worst part of anxiety for you? Anxious people of reddit: What do people do that makes you terribly anxious, but people don't know it does?
I get anxious about pretty much everything. Figured I cant be the only one I kind of get anxious around people of different races, but it's not what you think. It's hard to explain, but every time someone who isn't caucasian per say, I get even more anxious. I guess it isn't because I'm afraid of THEM, I think it's because I'm afraid of screwing up or making them upset more than usual and having them think that I'm racist. But I'm not racist. I think of everyone as equal, and see them as who they are: humans. Again it's hard to explain. I just needed to get this out in the open and maybe get some advice or something. I dont know. Thanks for reading I guess. Have you ever found yourself attracted (guy or girl) to someone who is just... very zen? Very calm, collective, and makes you feel very comfortable?
You ever just see that person that just kinda seems to have it somehow figure it out? No anxieties, just chilling in the present moment, and makes you feel so comfortable and able to be yourself freely? What helped you cope or overcome an insecure, anxious and nervous personality?
Thank you all so much for your helpful answers!
Here are the recommendations that I read most often in the comments:
regular exercise / gym
working on your mindset and negative thought patterns; question negative thoughts; embrace yourself and your anxious thoughts
therapy
mindful exercises like meditation and yoga
no one actually cares as much about you as you do
regular confrontation with what makes you anxious (having a job or working f.e. in retail, meeting people, ...)
find stability in healthy habits (fitness, food, journaling, hobbies, ...) and friendships/relationships
But there were actually way more helpful comments, so I recommend to read further :)
Do you feel as if social anxiety made you lose your personality?
Other
I was always a relatively anxious person, but after having acne and staying indoors for a whole year, my dormant social anxiety became too alarming to ignore. I often think back to when I was less socially anxious. I had a personality, I wasn’t afraid of being individual, I could talk for hours, I had a great sense of humour, etc. Now I can’t even hold a 2 minute conversation. Does anyone else feel as if they’ve lost a part of themselves, or at least their personality because of social anxiety? And does anyone know how to help with this?
