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Everyone preaches the importance of confidence but how many of us actually like it when we see others being confident?

And what defines the line between arrogance and confidence for you?
BlueVeins · 22-25
Two differences --

1) Arrogant people will use their belief in their abilities to justify bad strategy, whereas confident people will not (or are less likely to).
2) Arrogance is more overt than confidence is. Arrogant people are a lot more likely to explicitly state their superiority, whereas confident people merely project belief in their abilities through their actions -- namely by being decisive in selecting a course of action and following through with it.

It's an unclear line though and tbh I don't really have a thing for confidence in most situations.
summersong · F
I think confidence is self-contained whereas arrogance has to rub your face in it. I admire people who are confident but I’ll be honest, I find arrogance to be insufferable.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@summersong agreed
ShreksHouse · 56-60, M
Confidence- you show regard for others
Arrogance- you only have interest in yourself
SW-User
It's unfortunate that people seem to think confidence and arrogance are the same thing. Arrogance is believing that you are better than others; confidence is simply having faith in your abilities. It isn't a matter of comparing yourself to others.
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SW-User
@NickiHijab Yeah, but is that the confident person being arrogant or the threatened person being insecure?

I think the lines blur more in people's perception than they do in their actions. To some it's pretty clear when someone is being arrogant. But to others, all confidence may come off as arrogance because they feel that being confident is inherently a form of superiority and lording it over others.
Depends, a person can be confident without being arrogant

Arrogant is rubbing it in peoples faces
NickiHijab · F
@Ozymandiaz I agree, but isn't the latter subjective. Especially with someone who might feel insecure?
@NickiHijab Hmm good point. I am not sure. People dont tend to stay humble much these days.
SW-User
People preach what they're [i]not[/i] and wish they were.

Confidence isn't loud and trying to prove itself, that is arrogance.
Canuckle · 51-55, M
Confidence has kindness and compassion whereas arrogance has a disregard for people, places and things in my mind.
It's in the attitude. "I can do this,"
vs, "Get out of my way, idiot. I can do this much better than you can."
Forgetmeknot · 41-45
Confidence is about having faith in yourself without belittling others. Arrogance is faith in yourself whilst belittling others.

And probably...most people do not like seeing confidence in others as it unnerves them of their own self worth 🤷‍♀️ I'm guessing.
Everyone could use a lil humility. It's all about intention, and too many people are clearly only out for themselves. Confidence is enthusiastically teaching someone how to make a dish they know to cook, for example. Arrogance is masturbating themselves to the thought that others are there only to validate them about how good they are for knowing it.
MURD3RM0NK3Y · 26-30, M
I never like it. I only like it when I'm the one in the spotlight and when others take away from me being the center of attention I get annoyed/irritated.
SW-User
I rarely suffer arrogance.

I seem to remember seeing it most in the bars (20's) when guys just feel the need to strut.
Tempest · 22-25, F
I generally feel resentful towards very outwardly confident people probably because I'm jealous tbh
Lostpoet · M
I like it unless it's an older sibling then I gotta take them down a peg or two.


SW-User
Confidence is something you have. Arrogance is something other people have.
Badunk · 31-35, M
I like it when the people I love are confident, at least.
ABCDEF7 · M
I can/will do it - Confident
Only I can/will do it. - Arrogant
Arrogance does not put other people down
Strongtea · 22-25, M
I generally don’t like it.
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
Confidence to me is being able to be yourself and express yourself without fear, having the confidence to try things even if you're not experienced in them and being able to accept that you're not perfect and don't have to be.

Arrogance is just self importance and narrow-mindedness.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
Im very attracted to confident men and I admire confident women and I have a soft spot for confident children because I was so shy.
It crosses to arrogance when you don't listen to others, put others down, think that you are always right or give off an air of superiority.
Thats not confidence
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
I don't worry about others, but if I stay negative I'm never disappointed😉
i know someone who is confident,
it looks beautiful on them. (:
candycane · 31-35, F
Rudeness is that line.

 
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