How do you personally stay calm while dating?

If you do that is. How do you just view it as, If it works out, nice, if not no biggie???
My mind overthink s, future tells, mind reads...😢 Then I just decline interest in me...I think what guy will ever stay with someone with as much anxiety as me? I feel pathetic, small and like they could have lots of other women who are better. But I REALLY want to beat this fear and feel CALM about dating. How did you?

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

@iamBen I guess I'm always thinking men are always seeking a relationship from the get go, so I put so many expectations on myself. I feel I most likely can't be what they want over time...so I feel like I don't belong on the date to begin with 😢

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

@iamBen You're right, maybe many aren't thinking loNg term relationship while dating. It certainly puts pressure on me to think I need to be it all, be a full package. They could just be really seeking physical intimacy like you said. I definitely don't value myself because I see myself as broken, I have anxiety disorder. That's why I don't date, I feel I'm not enough. But I agree, I can't know if every guy wants a full relationship right off the bat, so having fun for a bit might be a better view . Thanks Ben 🌻✨☘️

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