Would you marry a career oriented woman?

What if a woman doesn’t want to marry a career oriented man because he won’t have enough time for his family? Sexism is when there’s no problem with a man having a hog powered career and a family, but a woman can have one or the other but not both.

As long as both partners understand their priorities in life and agree on them, its fine. Women can well be career oriented just like men. But unfortunately (or fortunately :) men can't have babies. So when the motherhood time comes, I'd always want my wife to prioritise the kid over career. I'd never want my kids to grow up with a nanny or at a day care centre- at least in the early years. I'd love to do it myself. But I don't think a dad can ever be a mom. So yeah, it's all about the right priorities in life.

There is a huge spectrum between “career oriented person” and “homemaker”.

When I think “career oriented person” I think an MD, an academic, a tech entrepreneur. I work in a place that is a literal zoo of broken marriages, adultery, addiction, recovery. So I get the down side of that. And I get the personal damage that comes with that. I’ve done it.

When I think of “homemaker” I think of my mother and late wife. I see a huge amount of human potential wasted. And I see two women I think cracked up from the isolation of staying at home. And who were broken by boredom because they were too curious and intelligent. Also nuts. But that’s another story.

There’s a happy medium.

Just encourage people’s dreams. Which can be anything. I know more than one homemaker who is also a small business owner running their gig out of the home or truck around family bits. I also know medical people and academics who scuttle their careers in ways that give them lots of free time.

I think a lot is less what we do and more how we think we need to live.

As long as you realise that in such a scenario, whatever you earn is not your money but both of you have equal rights of money because she would enable you to earn all of that without having you worrying about anything at home, then I will not judge your post as sexist.

Breadwinners often make the mistake of thinking that they have more power on the money they earn so I just hope people do not succumb to that.

A housewife? Hmmm. Give her the respect she deserves. The entitlement to the fullest. Make her happy. Giving up our maiden name, goodbye diplomas, bye flirting just to be with you. That’s not easy. Kill us with love but remember there’s the other road we can pick ourselves up. Don’t ever leave us to scrub the floors alone. Unload everything when you come home, Is there always a cushion at home waiting for you? How about her? Can she unload her thoughts until you are available? It’s a lifetime of waiting. Expect her looks to change cause she’ll be a homey. You need to be crazy in love to have one.

Career woman or not.. it’s about the relationship, are you patient? loyal? No matter where you go, both can stay faithful, learn to compromise, keep on forgiving.. because the needs to sustain life is not easy, you are going to have mouths to feed.

I’d rather have a career than a man that could switch up on me, beat me, cheat, or leave because I’m at a disadvantage not working staying with him 🥰

But you do you bew

Well, that's very progressive of you. You can tell that you want your partner to grow as a person & be fulfilled.

Career-oriented and workaholic are two different things you know?

I'd love to be a housewife unfortunately with the cost of living at present its not do able.

I’d prefer a housewife too. Coming from a career woman. Let me know if you find one 😂

I did. She retired.

No. I'm a gay guy. They can clean my house though

I like that

I think this is pretty common.

I have no idea what it's like to date a woman who either has money or is good with it--I am batting zero--so to marry a woman who has her shit together would be amazing.

You sound like it's still 1895 😀😂