I Am Dealing With Grief

Write your mum a birthday card still and put it somewhere special . She will always be your mum regardless of her passing. Look for little signs and believe when they come. Ask her in your head a question, when you feel sad and see what words pop into your head. They will be the ones she would say to you. Maybe its even her. Every time you pick yourself up and go on, think how happy she would be to see this or know that you are.

@Jeanna-I loved that idea of still writing her a card. I did exactly that and wished her well today. Thanks. I would not have thought to do this and it really helped.

Im glad you did :-) When some people die, they leave behind such a presence, that you can feel them here with you still. That is the way that we live on. If there is any life to be had after death, it is through the imprint that we leave behind, be it through our children that we create and are part of our genetics and our soul, or through our memories that we create of ourselves for others.
Don't forget to choose a special bauble to honour your mum ... hang it on your tree at Christmas .Write her letters and even make her a little shrine. I made one for a baby I lost and it felt like I was doing something constructive in my healing. It was just a shelf and I put things on it that I found relevant and pretty. People complimented it and I felt proud to tell them what it was all about. You could put a photo of her and a favourite ornament. Candles or a pretty lamp,,anything. Keep talking to her and don't dismiss those signs no matter how small.

I'm so sorry. I understand. I was the same. Twenty-four years ago, on June 16, 1992, my mom died. Two days ago on the anniversary of her passing, I felt like my heart was a lump of lead. I miss her still.

You will always miss her. But it will be less intense as time passes. 💔💐

I feel you, I lost mine in March too, and my Dad a short few years previous. You're not being a freak one little bit. Grief is hard, it changes us. Hang on to those who care and offer support. *soothing hug to you*

@Serenitree-thanks for understanding and sharing your experience so I don't feel so alone

@Sam-thank you. Sadly my relationship was troubled with my mom, but yes, I do have many cherished memories in between the messy ones I am trying to keep on the surface. We did our best with the time we had and trying to sort out my feelings that cancer has taken her too soon, with no warning, within only weeks. I thought I had plenty of time to get closer to her.

@jeanna I still talk to both my parents. I still feel their responses. Sometimes as words, but most often as a warmth, a comfort like a hug.

@Moiselle-thank you, your response brought me great comfort. I was really struggling. Today is better. Hugs back.

I'm sorry that your mom has passed. It's wonderful that you cherished her, and I'm sure you have many happy memories of times with her.

@Jeanna-that sounds like such a special way to honor and remember someone, to keep them included in your life because they will be a part of us always and maybe it is better than to deny this hole in us. I like how you think.

RootsToBlossom, truly, I am sorry that your mother declined so quickly. This is terrible.