Did you ever have a friend, spouse or parent gaslight you ?

My ex.

I met him first when I was 14 or so.

Of course he complimented etc etc then gave me drink and drugs. Then when I needed a place to stay I could. But then can I do a favour, deliver this here, pick up something.Talk to customers at the bar I worked suss out if they needed anything etc etc

Then the "you said A" or "you promised B" etc etc all started. Then the ignoring, the violence, the other people etc etc

Yes and yes I've healed. I will always be cautious from now on, but I definitely don't want to feel that way again.

My Mother.... and I do think I've healed those wounds with her but it's not something I'm going to forget . I do talk to her but am very careful with what I tell her .

When I was 18 I had a brand new car, an apartment, was in college and I was working. The guy I dated at the time who I went to prom with took my car while I was asleep. He was gone all day not answering the phone, no calls, I'm late for work, I'm worrying etc..he comes back had been drinking says he's depressed, I bust him over the head with a vase and kicked him out my apartment. As he's leaving he says this is your fault because you never help me when I'm depressed lol you are the reason I'm like this 😂 he never mentioned anything about depression before that day not even once smh when that didn't work he said that his mom was dying. I guess him stealing my car was supposed to save her 😂😂😂😂😂

Yes I have. A tactic of narcissists. They’ll promise things and then turn around and say they didn’t. Over and over. That’s just one example. Made me doubt my memory at first but then I started taking note.

Yes, my mother and my ex wife

Yes I’ve dealt with this… I still have healing to do

There are tools you can use to fend off directives.
Give a reason, "because" can be a very powerful word.
Confidently end your sentence in a calm and low tone.

My mother for sure lol

A little, yes.

A few have tried.

You need to play her at her own game.