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smiler2012 · 56-60
i am sorry to here this is the case . yes i understand it makes you paranoid but really that does not tell people your personality the real you and who you really are [a personnamedit]
Im sure its fine..
Grateful4you · M
Having something that makes you feel like you're somehow different something that might stay with a person for a lifetime. It is one of the most difficult behaviors to come to terms with. We are ashamed and embarrassed for being flawed , The discomfort and shame about body self- image happens in both men and women.
One of the most ironic things about this unfortunate part of our lives is that what appears to us as a major , really huge and ugly "defect" is in truth, barely noticed and hardly thought about to the person who has seen this particular "flaw" ( Of course there are really some serious malformations like the kid in the movie "Mask" who had what I think was Hydrocephaly I don't really remember. As was the case of the kid in "Mask" some folks overcome the trauma, the ever- present sense of being significantly less than others.
Instead of allowing this self- perceived flaw that is controlling emotional balance, take over the control and perhaps just purposefully draw attention to your person of concern and make a joke about it, Like, look, "My hands were borrowed by Quasimodo ( the hunchback of Notre dame or some other way of drawing a laugh) this can put you both at ease and diminish the thing that had control over you for so long.
People care so much more about the heart and soul of a person that something like clubbed hands have little to NO importance. It may take a little time but most people do overcome this habit of self -disgust that should really be a non-issue. I hope this helps and wish you my very best, (((HUGS))) David.
One of the most ironic things about this unfortunate part of our lives is that what appears to us as a major , really huge and ugly "defect" is in truth, barely noticed and hardly thought about to the person who has seen this particular "flaw" ( Of course there are really some serious malformations like the kid in the movie "Mask" who had what I think was Hydrocephaly I don't really remember. As was the case of the kid in "Mask" some folks overcome the trauma, the ever- present sense of being significantly less than others.
Instead of allowing this self- perceived flaw that is controlling emotional balance, take over the control and perhaps just purposefully draw attention to your person of concern and make a joke about it, Like, look, "My hands were borrowed by Quasimodo ( the hunchback of Notre dame or some other way of drawing a laugh) this can put you both at ease and diminish the thing that had control over you for so long.
People care so much more about the heart and soul of a person that something like clubbed hands have little to NO importance. It may take a little time but most people do overcome this habit of self -disgust that should really be a non-issue. I hope this helps and wish you my very best, (((HUGS))) David.
Ducky · 31-35, F
I had never heard of clubbed thumbs. After looking them up, I’ve actually seen fingers like that before but just didn’t know what they were called. I hope people have outgrown making fun of you for them because that’s a messed up thing to be making fun of. It’s not like you have any control over them.
I wouldn’t bother with hiding them and show them off proudly. That ought to deter any dullards from harassing you for them. I know it’s easier said than done, but you shouldn’t be poorly of yourself for something like that.
I wouldn’t bother with hiding them and show them off proudly. That ought to deter any dullards from harassing you for them. I know it’s easier said than done, but you shouldn’t be poorly of yourself for something like that.