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I Want to Live Life to the Fullest

Ever have to put a hold on everything due to being stuck in life? I work a fast food job, no one wants to hire me anywhere else even though I have a bachelors degree, haven't had dental work in 11 years (I need fillings) and my boyfriend won't help me pay for it, and I can't seem to accomplish anything else in my life. I don't mean to sound like a whiner, but some times I just get so frustrated that I need somewhere to vent before everything I have bottled up for so long just explodes out of me. I'm not where I want to be, and it all just feels so far away, and no one seems to care. Does anyone else on here feel the same?
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Pick a direction in life and go for it. Here are some possibilities: The fast food business might be a good place to work if you plan on getting promoted eventually. Talk to someone higher up on your job who can advise you. Maybe it would pay off to take a couple of business courses. Try to find out what kind of person they want higher up. See if you could somehow find a way to meet their requirements.

Another possibility....night school or weekend courses. I spent 8 years getting a second college degree and managed to do most of it on a scholarship. I know that the idea of years of night school is not a fun thought. But, then, it might be better than immobility in your life. And, after all, you'll be [i]somewhere[/i] in 8 years, right? So you might as well have a new degree by then.

Then there are shorter courses, ways to get trained for something that doesn't take that long. Maybe you could save your money and take a short course that would lead to a new job...? Example: Phlebotomy. You'd need a steady hand, an ability to deal with nervous people, and no fear of blood but it's the kind of job for which there is a real demand and it takes about 3 months to get trained. Other medical tech jobs take 1-2 years. One way to find them would be to phone a hospital or clinic on a day when they are not too busy and talk to people, especially those in Human Resources. Ask them which jobs are the hardest to fill.

Maybe if you paid the tuition, or took out a loan to pay the tuition, your boyfriend would at least support you while you completed the course...? Frankly, if he won't do that, he might be a guy who will never really help you with anything. You could offer to pay him back for your support after you'd been working for a year or so.

Some jobs are jobs you can get without any training that have more money and more of a future. Mostly these are sales jobs so you'd need an outgoing personality. Jobs like car sales person; you can work you way up to selling Rolls Royces after a few years.

These are just some ideas. A counselor at a community college might be able to give you some other ideas.

Nothing hurts as much as feeling stuck in one place. Make the decision to move on in your life. And the first step might be to decide where and how you are going to move. Don't give up if you can't come up with a solution right away. Keep a small notebook. Write down anything you can think of and ask other people who might have some ideas. As I said, Human Resources offices and college counselors are often good at this sort of thing.

DON'T GIVE UP. HAVE A PLAN. IF IT DOESN'T WORK, COME UP WITH ANOTHER ONE! KEEP GOING.[i]YOU CAN DO IT[/i]!

P.S. Try a dental college for those fillings.
LaFemmeAmelie · 31-35, F
Nice advice :-)
PoisonLace · 41-45, F
Thank you. I will definitely think this over.
LaFemmeAmelie · 31-35, F
You may qualify for government covered dental care. And maybe take a look at technical schools or community colleges to learn a trade.
PoisonLace · 41-45, F
Wouldn't more college require more financial aid?
LaFemmeAmelie · 31-35, F
@PoisonLace: yes but you may qualify for grants. Community colleges are a lot less costly than 4 year colleges. Think you can defer existing school loans if you go back to school. And definitely look at trade schools. But be wary of for-profit ones.
naoradix · 36-40, F
Everyone feels like that.
Pherick · 41-45, M
Nothing wrong with venting sometimes, we all have to or we would explode. What is your bachelors degree in?
Pherick · 41-45, M
@PoisonLace: I can see how that could be hard to find a career in :( ... So few positions out there in the world.
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@PoisonLace: It would take about a year or so to get a teaching credential. I majored in English. And, reluctantly, with difficulty, that is what I did. To my surprise, although it was a struggle, I had a very rewarding career.
Pherick · 41-45, M
@greenmountaingal: Good point! ALOT of school districts now are so desperate for teachers they will hire you as a teacher and then let you get an "emergency certification" while you work. Could be something?
SW-User
Let's get.married
PoisonLace · 41-45, F
lol
SW-User
I'll.....try to treat you right

 
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