I Have a Question

From long experience if someone starts a relationship insecure that feeling will destroy the relationship. It isn't something you can fix by loving or adoring someone, they have to fix it from inside themselves.

I think that being in that type of relationship is like having a child, you have you display a healthy level of tough love when they become needy, set and enforce boundaries but not withhold love. That's tiring... it takes a while to fall for someone to even consider doing these things, they just feel like a burden...But I'm not sure if this applies if the person wasn't insecure until they started dating someone?

Then it will only be worse. Insecure people should learn to love themselves without having to rely on an outside source before they find a partner.

Obviously that's an ideal world, some people will always be insecure, and they'll go through abusive relationships or sabotage good ones trying to find a way to be happy. But it's all in here

*points to soul*

But the love of another person is no different to a bottle or drugs for someone struggling with insecurity. It's still just a substitute for the love they don't feel for themselves, and in the end they feel hollow because they can see how much someone loves them but it doesn't touch their sadness.

I couldn't. Because they tend to be so needy. They expect too much. I feel bad for them, but i can't deal with the people who cling to you because they aren't happy.

@Just...I think that type of insecurity may be tied to trust, not self confidence, after one starts date someone.

It's exhausting when they constantly need validation. That's the worst to me.

Yes curious! It's too much for the confident person, they end up giving all their energy to fix them and suddenly the confident person is drained and exhausted. Which makes them latch on even tighter.

I don't know, it depends...will they ever get over their insecurity? if its something that will never leave them I think its a tough battle.

So then insecure people should date insecure people? Or is that a receipt for disaster?

@Jarjar..Maybe they just need someone to love them, that's all they probably need. Love will bring confidence.

I think insecurity comes within, but being loved might solve it...or make it torture for someone else

@Gorge... Yes, their soul needs fixing, unfortunately some try to find security in a bottle or with drugs.

We are all a little bit insecure, so we can't always find someone 100% confidence unless they are douches

@George..Some people need help to be fixed inside, they can't do it themselves.

We're not all clingers. lol
But, yeah, I feel bad for them.

@Jarjar..No Douches..No Douches..No Douches!

No because they are the worst type of annoying imo

@Callme...Yes, that does tends to happen.

@milhere that's quite possible.

@Jarjar...Yes, it can be a gamble.

Yes I would try to date them.

[c=#BF0080]No.[/c]