I Have Something to Say
Christmas 2016- we inadvertently taught our kids a few hard lessons
Even perfect plans fall apart.
Bad things happen to good people, sometimes they happen multiple times.
It's ok to cry for the babies our family has lost.
Christmas is about family unity and not about presents.
My husband and I completed almost all of our Christmas gift shopping prior to us losing the twins. He delivered the presents while I was in the hospital on Christmas Day to his nieces and nephews. I sent one to each of my nieces via Amazon.
Both my children only got gifts from the following people: my cousin (who is still mourning the loss of his wife 5 months ago) and my mom. Not one of my husbands brothers or sisters gave our kids a present (no matter how small) and my brother (their god father) did not either.
I don't think Christmas for us will even be the same. Sebastian and Natalia passed away in the wee hours of the morning on 12/23/16. My mother visited that that, and she watched my children Christmas Eve. She brought them to me to the hospital on Christmas Day so I could spend time with them again.
We didn't have presents for them because the day I ended up in the hospital (12/21) was the day we were going to go buy them their gifts. Instead we only had each other.
My kids haven't even mentioned not getting anything from any of their aunts and uncles despite us getting all their cousins gifts. I think inside they have realized that there are far more important things in life.
Today my oldest asked me if we could celebrate Daniels birthday this year as well as Santiago, Sebastian and Natalia's. He doesn't want us to forget them, and he wants them to live on in our hearts. I knew how big of a heart my kids have but I had not expected this from him....
I think going forward our Christmas traditions will change. Instead of giving gifts to those who don't need them, I will be making baby blankets for the NICU that made every effort to save my babies lives, those mamas need to know that they are not alone on their journeys, what ever the result.
Even perfect plans fall apart.
Bad things happen to good people, sometimes they happen multiple times.
It's ok to cry for the babies our family has lost.
Christmas is about family unity and not about presents.
My husband and I completed almost all of our Christmas gift shopping prior to us losing the twins. He delivered the presents while I was in the hospital on Christmas Day to his nieces and nephews. I sent one to each of my nieces via Amazon.
Both my children only got gifts from the following people: my cousin (who is still mourning the loss of his wife 5 months ago) and my mom. Not one of my husbands brothers or sisters gave our kids a present (no matter how small) and my brother (their god father) did not either.
I don't think Christmas for us will even be the same. Sebastian and Natalia passed away in the wee hours of the morning on 12/23/16. My mother visited that that, and she watched my children Christmas Eve. She brought them to me to the hospital on Christmas Day so I could spend time with them again.
We didn't have presents for them because the day I ended up in the hospital (12/21) was the day we were going to go buy them their gifts. Instead we only had each other.
My kids haven't even mentioned not getting anything from any of their aunts and uncles despite us getting all their cousins gifts. I think inside they have realized that there are far more important things in life.
Today my oldest asked me if we could celebrate Daniels birthday this year as well as Santiago, Sebastian and Natalia's. He doesn't want us to forget them, and he wants them to live on in our hearts. I knew how big of a heart my kids have but I had not expected this from him....
I think going forward our Christmas traditions will change. Instead of giving gifts to those who don't need them, I will be making baby blankets for the NICU that made every effort to save my babies lives, those mamas need to know that they are not alone on their journeys, what ever the result.
36-40, F
