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I got the call today, I can pick up my babies and bring them home. Their urns are ready, they have been engraved with their names and dates. Their urns are small and heart shaped, and they go inside a beautiful bear. We're picking up the kids from school and then picking them up from the funeral home.

As we walked out of the funeral home tears started pouring out of my face, my knees felt weak, and I felt my heart was being crushed. My husband held on to me as we walked to the car. I couldn't dry my tears fast enough and it took us both a moment to regain our composure. My 10yr old kneeled down between our seats and placed his arm around me and said "it's ok mom, they're coming home with us now, we can talk to them, and cuddle them when we miss them, you told me it's ok to miss them, don't cry" I gave my sweet darling boy a kiss on the cheek and said "you're right, and here I thought you never listen to me"
We drove home, in silence, my husband and I held hands and my oldest placed his arm around my 7year old and held him close all the way home.

I've given a lot of thought to where I will place my babies.
Daniel has held his place on my dresser in my room since we brought his bear and ashes home in March of 2015. He's had an alter: I light candles for him to guide his way and frequently place flowers at his side.

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Sebastian and Natalia's bear and Urns are exactly the same with the exception of the bows around the bears necks, Natalia's bow is Pink and Sebastian's bow is Blue.

I have decided I will be making the three of them a keepsake treasure box.
Sort of like this one I found on Etsy.

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My husband will build it for me, and I will place their names on them. They'll be stained and Inside the boxes I will place their clothes and hats and cloth diapers from the hospital, along with the blanket I made for each of them. Their hand and foot prints, birth and death certificates and all the other things I have left of them.

My babies will hold a permanent place in my heart and in my home. I've decided Daniel should also have a box although his will probably be a bit smaller and although I'd love to make one for Sebastian we lost him at 13weeks and could not have his remains cremated as his bones had not yet fully calcified enough to return any ashes. Instead we'll make a 4th box (small) for all of the babies I lost early, I will place their ultrasound pictures, and the small bears (beanie baby sized) I received when I lost them. That way they'll all also hold a place.

I'll be placing the boxes in the living room on a dresser/ chest or some kind of accent table that's long enough to hold the three chests and the smaller chest were making for the multiples, where we can place flowers and light candles for them.
Ambroseguy80 · 51-55, M
So sorry for your losses!!! It sounds as though you are doing the best you can to be assured that your little babies will not be forgotten. I think that's awesome!! God bless you and your family!!!
RainBisou · F
It is a wonderful plan, they will always be close. Prayers and love to you and your family.
Arrow17 · 46-50, F
I feel sorry for your lost

 
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