I Have Something to Say

So this is were I have a problem. I'm not comfortable talking always with males due to the irritation I have as a result of my been abused when I was younger and the girls I try to talk to and I like seem not to like me the way I like them.Today clarified the idea of hoping that a girl I admired would not have that same likeness for me. And I think i've wanted something that cannot come from girls I like. So my question is, how do I live without talking or relating with girls? And what do you think is the best action to take in my situation?

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Scribbles · 36-40, F

you're quitting too early, I think. Keep trying to find someone and talk. I know it can be hard especially when things don't go well and we feel hurt.
Good luck x

RoyX54 · 36-40, M

Thank you for your comment :) I hope I don't worry about it again. That's all :)

Sapira · 36-40, F

Why would you need to live without talking or relating to girls? We are people to you know! Just talk and get to know them as a friend first without worrying about having a serious relationship with them. In time you feel more relaxed and if any relationship is going to develop it will naturally because you will know it's what she wants. She will let you know. Enjoy life and stop worrying.

RoyX54 · 36-40, M

If you knew the type of pain I felt when I found out a certain person i found interest in turned who i've been friends with doesn't like me as much..my heart, may not be able to accommodate that sort of emotion again. I honestly don't know what love is. And I may not have the chance of experiencing it. I will not allow my past of been abused to change the fact that as a man I am supposed to like women. That is a natural fact, and I can't change it. But life seems unbalanced because I haven't had a girl who probably would have seen me the way I liked. I wish I could live and love music, as my area of interest, but it seems impossible. I have tried to build a friendship, but I may be quick to see certain things that tell me 'i'm not as important as other people in your life' kind of phase. Today, was just the very obvious one. Maybe my Words cannot describe how I felt realistically. But I have learnt From what I saw. The bad thing is, what I learnt is not a beautiful thing from girls in my area. I'm simply trying to live comfortably without been hurt by a girl. I appreciate your answer. Thank you.

saintsong · 41-45, F

build a relationship first, one of pure unadulterated love and work on that, shareing yourself with her, it doesn't matter in the begining if she feels the same way about you, that takes time, so give it time and just show her what a deep and meaningful relationship really looks like, of course she will love you.

RoyX54 · 36-40, M

Thank you for your answer :) And I think i understand what you mean. I wish I could actually have the endurance of seeing how freely she relates easily with other guys and when it comes to me, contact seems like an impossible thing between us. So I wonder. I tried to hug her once and she said have I seen her hug guys before?' like a rhetorical question. Then today I saw her hug a guy. If you know how I felt. I just had to conclude that there are better people she likes more than me. The bad thing is, once I'm hurt I disconnect from those people. No matter how good they are. I always wish them the Best. But i've learnt enough lessons to let such a thing happen again. I Just want a balance of care from a girl who likes me and who I like.

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