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how to become less sensitive?

I would put this in the category of self improvement but there is none for questions. how do i become less sensitive? Is that even possible or is it a personality trait that can not be changed? I'm definitely not in the worst situation in my life, but i have had a few events in life that made me really sensitive over certain topics in mot sensitive until it comes to these topics. I am sensitive over biking accidents and injuries that cause your body to look ugly, parenting (too laid back), being bullied, and immigration. i was in a biking accident as a kid which stunted my growth in my leg because it hit the epiphysial plate in one leg. so now my leg is a inch shorter then the other. I am an immigrant and i had many people in my life who were against immigrants and really dislike them. my mom was too laid back and what i would call a free range parent when i was younger, she let me ride on busy roads when i was a kid and a car crashed into me when i was riding down a hill on a bike.the car ended up stopping so just my leg got injured. I was bullied for being in English as a second language parents teachers and most of my classmates called me stupid and the kid's would talk slow and pretend i was stupid. I stayed in English as a second language until eleventh grade. i asked to go into higher classes and they said i was not going to be able to handle them because im not at the mental level the other kids were at both my parents and teachers said this, and the reason i was not at the level is because my elementary school and up to sixth grade they took me out of all classes to put im in esl all day. i did not pay attention in esl and hated English. I did end up catching up in highschool and now im in college getting a bachalors degree but i have very low self esteem from that and still i chose a bad college because i thought i was too stupid for any other colleges, and still wonder if im good enough for a harder college. please help me.
Maybe what you need is a change of perspective. Try to look at things with wider eyes, a broader scope. Look for the good in things.

You've called yourself stupid and blamed your mom for you getting into a bike accident that changed your life. I point it out only because you use the word accident and then blame someone who was not actively part of it. And calling yourself stupid has no good outcome.

Kids get hurt from time to time. Accidents happen no matter how well a parent parents. I'm sorry it was life changing for you.

Being hurt that people treat you poorly because you are an immigrant, well, that is totally understandable. People can be jerks about things they themselves cannot relate to. For them, it is also a mater of perspective. They have no idea what it is like to be you and are so full of political rhetoric that they don't see things outside of what is good for a political candidate to say who is trying to get elected into office. They don't think for themselves on every subject. there is a lot of information out there that we are all supposed to contain. It gets overwhelming and loads of us pick and choose what to learn about. And the rest of the information we let people feed us without ever thinking for ourselves. Most people who have issues with immigrants choose to let politicians feed them.

How you choose to react to ideas, information and words is totally up to you. You can control it. You have to figure out what pushes your buttons and then work on relearning how to react. Like everything else, it is a choice. You need to bring in new information and not the things you repeat to yourself over and over again.
BlueDiver · 36-40, M
I heard a great line once: There's no such thing as opening yourself to pain or opening yourself to joy - there's just opening yourself.

The opposite of sensitivity is thick skin. It's building a wall around yourself. It's dulling your experience of life so that things don't touch you like they used to. If you want to dull your sensitivity, then don't worry - life has a way of beating that part of you down to the bone once you get out into the world and really start to understand the selfishness, apathy, and mindless destructiveness that lives under the pretty pretenses. Once you start to recognize that all of the compassionate noises people make when they see a hurt mouse isn't going to stop them from calling the exterminator and then making up stories about how they didn't have a choice.
SW-User
It's a learned trait. You have to willfully stop yourself from being reactionary. Stop and think about why you feel the way you do. Most sensitive types don't think and just feel. You gotta find a balance that works for you
@HalfCactus: i see. i guess im the one who is wrong, i should be looking at it from their perspective. its hard because i know something more then they know and i can not unknow this just to relate more. i told him its a harsh joke and there are some people that will not find it funny. cince its my boss i cant say me, but i should not be trying to change them, i should change my feelings. but i think he was not effected by it so yea its probably me that should change.i just dont know, feelings just come, i can only change my thoughts and if i think oh let them have their fun it dosent change my feelings.
SW-User
@Girlyfriendcollecting: It's not about right or wrong. There are just different ways to think about things. Understanding that is a way to be less sensitive. That said, your boss kinda sounds like a dick
@HalfCactus: yep i agree it is a way of thinking differently. 😊
curiosi · 61-69, F
Self awareness which is sounds like you are getting toward. Keep on practicing recognizing how you are feeling and why you are feeling the way you do. Understanding the root cause is the way out.
thank you i just need to make sure im improving because sometimes i just dont know what to do to improve my personality. thats why i am not improving.
curiosi · 61-69, F
@Girlyfriendcollecting: This may help, it's a free online book, quick read.
http://www.urbandharma.org/udharma4/mpe.html
mumbling · 26-30, F
Well, you're getting offended. You have to accept yourself. Stop believing what other people say, and work and prove for yourself that you know you have always been better than that.
thank you😀😊

 
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