Wanted.

It seems like I spend all my time chasing everyone else, but no one has ever wanted to chase me. I wonder what that feels like? To have someone who you know is interested and not only that, but they're so interested they'll actually attempt to talk with you trying to make something happen. That must be a really special feeling I'd imagine, like you're worth something.

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lily88mercy · 26-30, F

@Conscience
Since I don't know you, Conscience, I can only answer your remark in the most general fashion. When it comes to dating or flirtation between girls and guys, it has very little to do with knowing how "worthwhile" someone is. It's about the gratification one gets from knowing that one is desirable. And, let me tell ya, being "desirable", even though it's a big time hoot for the ego, the club scene and the media like TV and movies....it has rarely anything to do with the things or human characteristics that make life and people "valuable." You know what I mean....one's intelligence, capacity for empathy, one's commitment to living with integrity...which means being honest or humble even when it doesn't appear to serve you.

These qualities are "internal" qualities....they are not seen on the exterior like a pretty face or a nice physique....they have to be discovered. And discovery takes time.

I think one of the best ways to use "time" is to belong to a group that is committed to making the world a better place. Select a group with a cause you are passionate about around a theme that is genuinely constructive versus intent on creating division among people. It's the difference between "Habitat for Humanity" where one builds homes for the poor versus a political group that spends its time denouncing others.

A group that supports helping others is where you are likely to find others like yourself. Caring people. Sensitive people. People who will spend time with you. And VOILA, over time, some lucky girl will discover you....the real you. And believe me....when it's mutual and the physical chemistry is there....you will be floatin' on a cloud.

Best wishes,

Lily

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lily88mercy · 26-30, F

[i][c=#7700B2]I just have to find some part of me that thinks life without love is worth it.[/c][/i]

Ok, I'm not gettin' through to you, and maybe that's part my fault with the shark story.

It's not about the things you do.

It's about the BEING who you are.

The sun never thinks about is it hot enough to warm up a planet so things can grow.

A mother doesn't wait for her newborn infant to grow up to get a job before she loves it.

A cat doesn't look at an 8 foot fence and asks himself if he's got the stuff to run up it and sit on the rail. He does it.

A Marine doesn't think it's time to fold up the cards and say "I give up" because he and his pals are outnumbered and surrounded. He fights until there's nothin' left to fight or there's nothin' left of him that can fight.

If you are LOVE you don't wonder if you are worthy of it or when it's comin' around to kiss you back.

Now gettin' there...gettin' your mind right....it's a soul adjustment, Conscience.

Check out the dudes I referred to in the previous note.

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@lily88mercy: That's what I meant about following my passions instead of love. That's being myself. I'll look those guys up if you really feel that I need to though.

lily88mercy · 26-30, F

@Conscience:
I support you whichever way you choose, Conscience. I'm encouraged by your sincerity and ability to talk about such a sensitive subject. Regarding looking up mentors....well....it's up to you. Please don't do it because I've learned a lot from listening to these guys. Do it if your curiosity for self-growth is tickled.

While I do like Tony Robbins, he's a little over the top for me much of the time...but I give him credit for his uncanny ability on how he pierces through the veil of our defenses, WOW! Wayne Dyer has a much gentler approach, he's more like having a chat with a very kind and loving uncle.

To get familiar with their work you might check out:

1- On Netflix: "Tony Robbins: I Am Not Your Guru" (2016)
2- On You Tube: "Mastering the Art of Manifesting" Wayne Dyer at Wanderlust's Speakeasy

Both men, including other speakers found at Louise Hay Publishing have many free vids on You Tube. Entire seminars - so money doesn't have to be an issue.

Good luck to you, Conscience....I'm pulling out my high school pom poms out of the closet and cheering for ya!

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It's alright, I'm glad I helped you feel better! 🙂

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@StephenJ: Sure! We can add each other. I'll be around. I'm not great at PMs, but I sign on regularly.

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I messaged you first back on EP and told you how interesting I thought you were. We would never have become friends if I didn't "chase you" to some degree. :/
I guess you mean this mainly in a romantic context though? I dunno.

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@Macabre: You should know me well enough to understand by now that if I ever complain, it's not because I have problems with friends. That's impossible when I know amazing ones like you. It's simply because I don't have love, you also know I'm a hopeless romantic. So it gets difficult somtimes. Don't ever think I don't appreciate you though! ❤ Okay?

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Okay. :)

LadyWioness · 56-60, F

The feeling is wonderful. But, if it doesn't work right, it's miserable.

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@ZenLioness: I hate the idea of thinking I have many years to live the way I do. I can do it, but it doesn't seem worth it.

LadyWioness · 56-60, F

@Conscience: it is worth it. I was a [b]mess[/b] in my 20s. Didn't know what direction was up. I think, in most cases, that's typical. The fact that you don't want to live this way is motivation in itself to inspire change. Just do one thing at a time. Don't overwhelm yourself. It's hard, but you have a brilliant mind, and you think on your feet. Hang in there sweetheart. You know where I am, if you need to talk. 🤗

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@ZenLioness: What change could I make though? You can't force people to love you Lioness. That's always their choice. I don't even care if I had everything in the world. It doesn't mean anything if no one loves me. I suppose I'm supposed to try and improve myself. I've already done that. Now what?

BrattyBetchSona · F

that's not a thing lmao 😂 what a comedian

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What do you mean?

BrattyBetchSona · F

that what you're talking about isn't really a thing imho

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@BloodPrincessSona: Don't you think it can be for some people? Surely you've seen someone being chased before. :)

sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M

uh... be careful asking for that.

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Why?

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