I Have Been Used By People I Thought Were Friends

I have been used many times. Today a friend of mine who is used to mooching off me was sick. So I went with her to get altra sound for emotional support. I have treated her out for lunch on many occasions... She also made a habit of borrowing money and not returning it. Need I mentioned she is not poor by any means. So today we went to a restraunt and I decided not to order anything because I'm on a diet... She ordered expensive drink and a meal... Then after she already started to eat the meal she turns to me and says can you lend me some money. I told her I didn't have cash on me. The she panicked in horror ...and said she also didn't any Money! I asked her to charge it on her visa or something. And she claimed her card wasn't working. I sat there calmly and repeated that I wasn't going to bail her out this time. She dug in her purse and found enough for the bill. The audacity of some people astounds me. She very well knew that she had money.... But she was willing to lie. Should I dump this friend? I'm glad I'm setting strict boundaries.

RadiantRuby

Venting really takes a strong bitter feeling off. Its good to hear others confirming this behavior is not right. Thank you ladies. Tonight I logged on here fumming about several terrible things that happened over the past couple of weeks. I'm glad I have online support. Cause in my actual life I have none.

Myzery · 41-45, F

Yeah, you should dump her.
I know it's hard because most of the people that I spent my time with only wanted me around for their benefit. When I was dealing with terrible family problems, I was alone. So, once that was over and I had nothing but free time, I gave them none. So, I spend most of my time alone now, but I do feel slightly better not being a tool for others. I am working on feeling better about it.
I am sorry you are dealing with this.

froggtongue · M

I'm glad you're setting boundaries too. She's not proving to be a really good friend. But it's your decision. Besides, maybe there are other qualities not yet discovered. And maybe you're the friend she needs to get her on track with that sort of thing.