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TheLoveAge · 36-40, F
I think is because it's still widely socially unacceptable and thought weak to be seen crying. Especially for men as it's seen as unmanly to do so cross culturally. It's a difficult pattern to break which could be soon seeing it's breaking point as we evolve.
When we were younger we didn't have to worry about filters and naturally expressed ourselves however we did. We either were nurtured properly in expressing ourselves and emotions, or we didn't always get the attention we deserved and were often times told to, 'suck it up'. Which conditioned our psyche it's not ok to cry and to suppress our emotions. It basically made us feel unsafe to be who we are in a way, in favor of appearing strong and even competent to others. Which btw is a reason we have identity issues... That's another topic in an of itself. But it's just another way we conform to societal ideals (partially unconscious) however self destructive...
It's not a crime to cry, it's a natural and healthy release and should only be given its way into a healthy space to be conveyed.
When we were younger we didn't have to worry about filters and naturally expressed ourselves however we did. We either were nurtured properly in expressing ourselves and emotions, or we didn't always get the attention we deserved and were often times told to, 'suck it up'. Which conditioned our psyche it's not ok to cry and to suppress our emotions. It basically made us feel unsafe to be who we are in a way, in favor of appearing strong and even competent to others. Which btw is a reason we have identity issues... That's another topic in an of itself. But it's just another way we conform to societal ideals (partially unconscious) however self destructive...
It's not a crime to cry, it's a natural and healthy release and should only be given its way into a healthy space to be conveyed.
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TheLoveAge · 36-40, F
@hippyjoe1955: My intention wasn't to single out men. It's just widely known that in general, men suppress their emotions. Or at least the contrast that exists between the two genders. I knew I'd get some comment about that which is ok. It really is meant to address people of both genders.
I typically don't like to pin genders against one another- gender roles to cause division by emphasizing an aspect of a topic, but decided to take that leap in emphasizing men anyway.
And I never claim to be an expert of any kind. I leave things open ended and revise myself as needed.
And perhaps I didn't convey my message that would show I understand the differences but I know there is.
But what do you say about how those differences in how they're expressed and why they're misunderstood, or how it may cause more division?
I typically don't like to pin genders against one another- gender roles to cause division by emphasizing an aspect of a topic, but decided to take that leap in emphasizing men anyway.
And I never claim to be an expert of any kind. I leave things open ended and revise myself as needed.
And perhaps I didn't convey my message that would show I understand the differences but I know there is.
But what do you say about how those differences in how they're expressed and why they're misunderstood, or how it may cause more division?
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
@TheLoveAge: Men don't suppress their emotions. They don't have the same ones to the same extent as women. The genders are built different. You women are wonderfully made. I remember in church one Sunday when a baby cried all the nursing moms rushed out of the sanctuary. The cry set off their emotional response and caused them to have a milk let down.
BlueMetalChick · 26-30, F
Salix75 · 46-50, F
Society shames it, viewing crying as weakness or emotional manipulation. They don't know how to handle it when someone is crying and feel awkward, so they'd prefer people not cry.
And look how often people who do cry apologize for it. Even when the tears are for something completely legit - like they're talking about the death of a loved one or a traumatic experiences. They *still* apologize for their tears. :(
And look how often people who do cry apologize for it. Even when the tears are for something completely legit - like they're talking about the death of a loved one or a traumatic experiences. They *still* apologize for their tears. :(
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
Heartlander · 80-89, M