How do you deal with someone who only talks to you when it is too late to change anything?

For example: after you leave at the end of a day together and they message to say, "I wanted to talk, I wish you had stayed" but hadn't said either of those things as you said goodbye and left.

Or after going out to get food and you are finished ordering they say, "I wish we went to this place" And you are frustrated because you asked them what they wanted first.

Or you ask them what they want to do and they say, "whatever it doesn't matter". So you pick something then they just act moody instead of saying they don't want to do that and would rather do something else.

I can't read minds person!