Are you too stubborn to reach out first after an argument?

So true. I've said all I can to him and he knows how I feel. It's up to him what he wants to do about it now

I'm going to let him make the first move... If he ever does

I can't resolve it. He needs counseling

@Adelh91: if you can't resolve it and it's bringing you down, walk away. If he's an important part of your life, you could tell him that when he get help you will be happy to work on the problems

If he's not important to you, simply cut him loose.

Dec. 3/16
8:34 am.

@Serenitree: I'll be seeing him tomorrow so I will have a proper chat then and try and make sure he doesn't change the subject. He uses a lot of avoidance tactics

That's for the better then in my opinion

not when you care about the person.

@theowl: but they're obviously not right for you if they treat you like that

Then reach out after you cool off. Agree to disagree with each other. Most roadblocks in a relationship are because neither person is willing to budge. It's simple, decide to budge. Where the real problem comes in is when you find yourself being the only person who budges time and time again. Relationships are entirely about give and take.

@Halcyon: If I don't budge then it's over basically

That is most definitely a possibility.

@Adelh91: Oh damn. I'd do the same tbh, because there's no point arguing with a person that is too close-minded and only hears his side of the conversation.

@TheMisanthropeOtaku: it's like talking to a brick wall. I feel like I have nothing to say to him right now either good or bad

@Adelh91: Yeah, definitely the no-listening type.

I'm not being unfair but it's like talking to a brick wall with him

@Adelh91: There has to be willingness on his part to work through issues, or you'll never progress as a couple. I don't know the specifics. I do know that it pays to be assertive but not aggressive. He won't respond well to nagging or dramatics. (Not that I'm assuming either on your part).

@adshaw: I think we've pretty much just broke it off

We've had the same argument so many times. He has issues that he won't address and the relationship will never go any further without him doing so.
I have nothing to say to him any more

I wouldn't look back if I were you

It's not about ego tbh. We just want different things in life. I don't think it can last much longer

I'm sorry to hear that you are going through that. Yeah, that's a different situation. DH and I considered divorce but we didn't like how that looked for us. That's why we work so hard at it now. But sometimes not being together is a better solution for both people.

Me too

I can't do it any more. I've been walked all over too many times

@Adelh91: I understand and actually reaching out first sometimes makes things worse or makes the person even madder at least it did in my situation some time ago.