I don't really know how relationships go so help???

Just get a job. What guarantees you that he'll be there for the rest of your fucking life? Get real. Nobody is going to take care of you better than you can yourself.

You are not married to him. You have not even said you are engaged. He has no traditional role as your supporter. You have the right to decide to support yourself. Just tell him you would feel better having a job and earning your own money. If he says that is not open for debate, please read the Pre Incident Indicators from the book [i]The Gift of Fear[/i] by Gavin DeBecker. Or read the book itself. One of the most serious signs of an abusive person is the unwillingness to take No for an answer. If you go online you will find an outline of the PINS from the book or you can also find them on Gavin DeBecker's website. DeBecker is a world class threat assessment expert who works with famous people, movie stars and government security agencies. His threat assessment system for law enforcement, VICAP, is used by the FBI as well as the CIA. And from my own personal experience, he is an excellent source of information.

Tell your boyfriend you love him, and he is a manly enough guy without supporting you. Tell him you really need the satisfaction of supporting yourself. Tell him he can buy you gifts and take you on romantic weekends and vacations but you will be covering your own living expenses. And if he doesn't accept that, read DeBecker's book or read about the PINS and think very carefully about further involvement with a guy who could be way too controlling.

It seems like your boyfriend’s wants to control your life, relationships are suppose to be equal. I don’t care how much he makes it will always be his money, his car, and you don’t want to degrade yourself having to ask him for everything.

It’s not his place even if you guys married to have to ask his permission to buy something or do something. You want to control your own life and be independent

Tell your boyfriend, nicely, that his insistence that you not work is insulting. Because it makes it seem like you aren't capable and can't take care of yourself. You aren't dating him because you want someone in charge of your life, you're dating him because you want a partnership where you take care of each other.

You can tell him that you appreciate what he's saying, and that's he's a good man for wanting to take care of you, but like him, you need to work and carry your weight too. You're not an object to possess. You're a woman who needs to feel productive, and be able to purchase things and pay for bills too. You don't want to ask him for money all the time, as that will make him resentful.

lol he's too young to know what a mans suppose to feel and any real man wouldn't be setting rules for how his girl is suppose to support her self . there no way he can support both of you at such a young age ,even with a bachelors degree starting wage isn't enough..the world we live in requires two incomes

he sounds like an asshole to be honest. he wants to control you. he's one of these guys who believe the guy is the bread winner and the woman shouldnt do anything. if he doesnt see you as an equal. thats a problem. and if he isnt listening. thats also another red flag.

Never depend on some dude takin care of you

There is providing and there is providing. If you were living together then let him provide a roof over your head, utilities, food, some clothing, some entertainment and transportation. Then there is what you can provide, as well. A thank you for loving me meal either you cook or take him out. You will want to buy your own beauty supplies, some of your own clothes, entertainment and things of that nature.

That should strike a balance :)

honestly i would kinda hate it if my bf keeps buying me things >.> especially if theyre expensive , i dont understand how some girls can do it lol. but i think you should talk to him again i guess

It's sweet that he's offering to do that but helping is different than doing everything. You guys can make money together, nothing wrong with that. But he needs to know that he can't do everything for you because that could also hurt him later on as much as it's making you feel uncomfortable now

he sounds rly insecure

You need to really find a person to support what you want.. not dictate to you what he wants. You are a independent woman, live that life. Find a person who wants to [i]share[/i] in life, not own yours.

Both of you get a job and provide for each other. Maybe if you say you like your job, he'll let you keep it for your happiness

It's great that he wants to be a good provider but if you want to get a job than he should support that.

you a grown woman right. so get the job if you want to work.

Good luck. Stick to your guns. His insecurity is not your problem. It's his.

He's thinking like a sugar daddy

Keep your independence.