What do you do if you can't move on, and stop liking someone?

For some reason I can't put her out of my head, even though she has a boyfriend and is happy I still feel so worthless. I know were still friends but, I feel like I missed the opportunity. It takes a lot for me to get as close to someone as I have with this girl. I am thinking of asking her about polyamory, which I don't know is right or not. Basically I want to tell her she could have us both, I am satisfied if I'm just a guy on the side if it means we're something more than friends. I don't know what to do.

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SW-User

Distance yourself from her and try to meet new people. You'll never move on if you're always around her. Definitely don't just ask to be a side piece... that's an insult to both of you.

hunkalove · 61-69, M

Move on, little dude. There are plenty of other women out there just waiting to make your life miserable!

ThatAntarcticaGuy · 26-30, M

It has happened with me too. Except I didn't thought about the polyamorous part lol. I can never adjust with a guy on other side.

Here is what I did :-

I started disliking her. I know it's hard but I started finding faults in her and everything she used to associate with. It was hard at the beginning but after 1 months believe me I started disliking her to such an extent and wondered how the hell can I fall in love with such a selfish and mean person.
Also I started talking to my other friends who were very close to me, used to hang out with them.
Spent more time watching action movies and news. Basically do everything you can to distract your mind from her. :)

Heyitsme · 26-30, F

It's just a memory. Fill your brain with new memories hers will fade overtime but you have to work for it. Don't be pathetic.

Razoreye001 · 31-35, M

I still want to be friends with this person though.

Heyitsme · 26-30, F

Look if she's making you loose your dignity (your even contemplating being a second choice) you don't want to keep her as a "friend" You'll hurt yourself and lower yourself of sense worth. Do you like the feeling of low self esteem and self hate and loathing? Because that is what is waiting.

SW-User

Drown in it. You'll either end up broken, or come out a man.

Heyitsme · 26-30, F

Tough love. Makes sense.

BraveAngel · 36-40, F

First learn to love yourself and then others will value you. You cannot be just a guy on side where is your self worth dude! Keep your eyes open there are many you can make you most important in their life.