If someone talks about dieting, should the other worry about them cheating?
Just wondering what you think about this?
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cherokeepatti 路 61-69, F
That kind of thinking is what caused me and my ex-husband a lot of problems. I would gain weight and diet and walk miles every day to lose it. Got to the point I would do it secretly because he was so damned hostile towards me and would sabotage my efforts every way he could, bringing sweets and other foods into the house or insisting we go out to some fattening restaurant for meals. And then when he'd notice I was losing weight he'd start acting hostile towards me, degrading me. I wasn't losing weight to find someone else, I was doing it for my own health and to fit into my clothes. I don't know how men can be so damn self-centered and shallow-minded.
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cherokeepatti 路 61-69, F
@MartinTheFirst: I know
cherokeepatti 路 61-69, F
@cherokeepatti: But I'm living in the USA and not Sweden, maybe the culture is different here than your culture
laotzu92 路 70-79, M
Nope. That is the responsibility of the dieter.
Carla1951 路 70-79, F
I watch what I eat. I walk around the block 3 times a day. Yes I have ice cream in the evening. However I want to look good for my guy. I want him to feel proud to be seen with me. Yes I have been Big. Years ago I took it upon myself to exercise. Drink more WATER Less Soda. I want my guy to be proud to be seen with me. And he is protective. When we were in our teens my hair was waste length. I've let it grow back. I want him to feel proud.
Friend; I am not young. Still I have not abused my body, I want a long life. One not in a hospital bed.
If you're happy SMILE more. Let your mate know that you are a happy woman. Don't argue. Don't try and confuse. Give your partner a REASON to come home. If we want to have a long life, we have to prepare the way. Plant the flowers. Smile and compliment with no reason but to see a person that is there making you happy. Next month I am 65. I could find daily reasons to complain about my life. But these words don't make me happy.
Next time you see your mate, Give him/her the compliment they seek, "WOW Babe, you're HOT!" Then take control and deliver a KISS!
Friend; I am not young. Still I have not abused my body, I want a long life. One not in a hospital bed.
If you're happy SMILE more. Let your mate know that you are a happy woman. Don't argue. Don't try and confuse. Give your partner a REASON to come home. If we want to have a long life, we have to prepare the way. Plant the flowers. Smile and compliment with no reason but to see a person that is there making you happy. Next month I am 65. I could find daily reasons to complain about my life. But these words don't make me happy.
Next time you see your mate, Give him/her the compliment they seek, "WOW Babe, you're HOT!" Then take control and deliver a KISS!
HyperSensei 路 41-45, F
Right on. I guess it's not enough that we can't keep our hands off of each other lol
sighmeupforthat 路 46-50, M
HyperSensei 路 41-45, F
Sure hope so
Carla1951 路 70-79, F
It is not DIETING it's extending our life span. I agree. If we want to improve how we look, we must focus on how we see ourselves. I think I look dam good for my age. But I don't dress provocative. I would like to look 'sexy' but I have learned doing so upsets him when I get attention from other men. Twice a month we go to our favorite Karaoke Bar. (He Sings, I don't) My BF has been cheated on by many various women. I have this man back in my life and I plan on keeping him.
Looking in today's world too few of us even picture a tomorrow. How many days are left?
I don't know either. But it IS my job to make sure it will last a long long time.
Looking in today's world too few of us even picture a tomorrow. How many days are left?
I don't know either. But it IS my job to make sure it will last a long long time.
HyperSensei 路 41-45, F
Very good on you. And I hope you have many many years of blessings with your SO! 馃尫鉂わ笍@carla1951:
Aprism 路 F
Only cheat days if you are referring to the diet itself. Cheating has a few meanings. You aren't clear on what type of cheating so I'm having difficulty understanding what you want to know.
HyperSensei 路 41-45, F
Cheating in the relationship. Not the diet
Aprism 路 F
What are the other variables?
HyperSensei 路 41-45, F
I guess I worry he might want to leave me for someone younger. I am 10 years older than him after all. But I do look his age 馃槒@Aprism:
Myzery 路 41-45, F
Not necessarily. It depends on if there are other signs. They might just want to feel better about themselves, but if the partner gets paranoid about nothing, it could damage the relationship.
I have watched it happen.
I have watched it happen.
wintersecret 路 41-45, M
dieting & cheating
what's the relation?
what's the relation?
HyperSensei 路 41-45, F
They might be trying to attract someone new? Or so I've heard
laotzu92 路 70-79, M
@HyperSensei a suspicious mind.
AnukBinary 路 M
Idk I usually don't pay attention
MartinTheFirst 路 22-25, M
cheating????
HyperSensei 路 41-45, F
Hope not
MartinTheFirst 路 22-25, M
@HyperSensei: most likely not 馃
Carla1951 路 70-79, F
@HyperSensei: Honey, It's up to you to suggest places to go. Find a park. A place to walk and enjoy the sounds of the children and wild life. Find a reason to move. Get on a swing and see how high you can go. Listen to the birds sing as they call for their mate. There are many places to go to visit and feel comfortable in your own world. Find a Farmers Market. Look to find a place to have a picnic. Simply because it's different.
Fact is, we settle. Our lives become boring. YOUR JOB is to change that way of thinking.
Fact is, we settle. Our lives become boring. YOUR JOB is to change that way of thinking.