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Anyone ever have a FWB situation that ended nicely?

Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
Yes of course... often.... but for men it tends to be about needing to let go with good grace when she finds something more suited to her needs..
I always say fwb tends to be
Short term...rarely works long term because:
either the woman falls in love and thinks its more.. cool if the guy is up for it but not cool if not.. always ends badly that one
Or the guy falls.. ok if the woman is ok with that
OR the woman sees him as literally short term *practice* and comfort while she seeks something better and more suited to her needs
AND/OR she is seeing others at the same time.. well there's no relationship so she doesnt feel tied.. and he gets left last on the list or not getting it that often... that can end nicely IF he accepts with good grace.. .
Unfortunately what ruins most is the woman falling.. we are just prone to falling for someone we have regular sex with..we cant seem to help that.. one way to reduce that is to make sure as a woman you have several fwb and dont just stick to one, oh and continue to look elsewhere too :P
DownTheStreet · 51-55, M
Good advice. You've had lots of experience?
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@DownTheStreet: yes lots... all mine ended nicely on my part.. some of them were not pleased when their benefits were terminated... and i understand that.. but they accepted it in the end = the saying easy come easy go is very relevant.
My first experience with it was my last. It ended horribly.
I knew from the outset that it was sex and nothing more, and that it would end eventually, which was fine, but the WAY he ended it really f*cked me up.
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
@DreamyCrush: I'm sorry to hear that. I think a bad ending is more common than a good one.
@HoraceGreenley: Thank you. It was a lesson well learned.
akindheart · 61-69, F
yes 2. one still going on.
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@DreamyCrush: you are so right there because when I was offering FWB I found soooo many men truly didnt seem to understand that in order for it to work or for even motivation in offering fwb there NEEDS to be a friendship element.. I had many applicants for the position of fwb but some of them thought they could collect the benefits but not offer the friends part.. lol they found their benefits terminated :P
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
@Adaydreambeliever: I think you are right. In my experiences the woman pursued me for the benefits and had no interest in the friends part.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@DreamyCrush: yes we like each other but the most important thing is he trusts me. implicitly
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
Yes and I see her everyday at work.
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
We talk everyday I actually am the one that got hurt as she moved on with no explaination. So it took me awhile but I got over it.
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@PTCdresser57: hugs and that does happen too.. i have talked to lots of men about this and i would be the first to accept that men get hurt.. I have probably hurt a good few myself unintentionally.. .for me i never promised anything and never offered anything so i guess i felt free to go as soon as it didnt work for me or i found something i lked more.. but we shouldnt forget men have feelings too..
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
Thank you Adaydreambeliever...it would have been easier on me had she just been honest and up front.
Keyra11 · F
Mine ended pretty ok we are still friends but maybe its because he had to relocate
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
Nope. It was fun while it lasted!
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
exactly thats the *only* way to look at it.. be grateful you had it while it lasted.. dont ask questions.. dont whine when it's gone..just be glad you had it at all ... it was a gift.
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
@Adaydreambeliever: I agree. Although I was the one that was pursued, so it was OK with me.
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DownTheStreet · 51-55, M
Not quite
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
Yes. I actually still speak with her.

 
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