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[c=#4C0073]Is it possible to stay sexually faithful to one woman forever? [/c]
[i]When I complain I'm not wired for monogamy it really isn't about the sex at all. [/i]Of course I can see why the opposite sex would see things from a different angle given that We're the privileged ones in the situation since we don't have to deal with NEARLY so many potential abusers/bad matches as you do in reverse [i]but one of the great failures of female empathy is in understanding how much easier it is [/i]and NOT because of Biology alone but those Cultural factors count for something for us to develop feelings for multiple members of your sex on an emotional level. Sure, it might be rare for YOU but again women tend to not only be more discriminating but the amount of men that really would work for it/love them/appreciate what they had/give back and engage in a Rewarding two way relationship with them in that regard is MUCH MUCH SMALLER than it is in reverse and like I said the cultural factors count for a lot in fact if epigenetics is telling us anything Nurture is stronger than nature so that might explain why the number of Truly mean spirited/manipulative/exploitative/Cruel women is TINY compared to the number of Assholish Men who are Trollish and like to hurt people.

[i][b]Your Sex truly is the Kinder Sex at least TO MEN.
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Yeah there are a lot of guys out there there that have gotten an unfair shake and I'll be the first to admit that I have anger at my own sex for the deplorable treatment of women but This is where Nurture is Cruel= Far more women are Desirable then men are and far more are easy to fall for.

We're in a metaphorical candy store of opportunity for Romance where there's just too many eligible partners.

For you it might be different but consider the differences in expectations for the two sexes and perhaps you can see it.

And again. It's not about the Sex.

It's about the Heart feels and emotions.
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
[c=#4C0073]thats understandable[/c]
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
Yes, for the right one.
Longlegs2014 · 61-69, M
LOL - what an interesting question (considering my ex-wife was a serial cheater when I was on business trips 'but honey, you don't understand. I've got this itch and it's just gotta get scratched or else I am going to bust...').

So many guys, of different ethic/heritage groups will tell you no. Mainly because many can't. That 'Baby you just don't understand. Us men, well we got to, ya see, we are just going to burst of we don't, yada yada yada...'

The short answer is -- If a man and a woman care very much about each other, and get married for the right reasons... then yes they can stay sexually faithful to one woman.
exexec · 61-69, C
Sure. I did it, or at least I've done it so far, and we dated seven years and have been married 40 years.
firefall · 61-69, M
Sure, I've never cheated on any woman I've been committed to.
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
@firefall: [c=#4C0073]Yeah I have given up on it. I have two children and I'm fat and unattractive. I have already accepted that it will not happen for me.

I am going to lose the excess weight though. [/c]
firefall · 61-69, M
Good luck with the weight loss (god, I know that one too well). And I hope you accidentally stumble across some guy who's worth your while (or some girl, I dont mean to be biased).
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
@firefall: [c=#4C0073]Lol I definitely like men. Thanks for the well wishes. Your wife is truly a lucky woman.🤗😊[/c]
sunrisehawk · 61-69, M
Of course, however, the woman is a part of that question as well. If she doesn't choose to grow with the man, or if she changes the rules, then the forever part becomes much harder. If the man doesn't grow with the women and communication is lacking that is also a problem. It takes two to achieve success in a monogamous relationship.
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
[c=#4C0073]I agree with that wholeheartedly and that's what makes it so difficult to attain. [/c]
walabby · 61-69, M
I've managed to for 38 years.. :(
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
[c=#4C0073]you don't seem all that happy about it[/c]
walabby · 61-69, M
I am impressed with my moralistic stamina, but sad that I had to have that to remain faithful.. Being faithful shouldn't be a chore..
I just needed more sex than once a month for the last ever... :(
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
I say NEVER, if you have an active libido.. MAN or WOMAN.. Monogamy is a myth that causes sexual unhappiness.. I believe in POLYANDRY..
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
🤗@HoraceGreenley:
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
@VioletRayne: both men and women can be sexually faithful.
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
@VioletRayne: Personally I never felt I was "stooping".. But we all have our own sexual feelings when dealing with another lover/partner/mate..
Abcdtoxyz · M
No..never .
Noone can satisfy a woman
Her desire never ends about sex and new partner.
They always try to find any way to get away from older guys and find a new guy for few weeks or a month.
Sexually women are not trustworthy

They can sleep with anyone if they will get chance.
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VioletRayne · 31-35, F
@IstillmissEP: 😂 😂 looking at that objectively that does not look good 😂 😂
Abcdtoxyz · M
@VioletRayne: what's this !
NigelDoes · 56-60, M
Yes. Is it possible for women? Yes
NigelDoes · 56-60, M
@SteveHamm: where did I imply that it did Steve?
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
@NigelDoes: [c=#4C0073]I never accused you of complaining. This is why I'm asking the men. To see how they feel and what they believe. I don't believe in making assumptions, especially when you can go straight to the source.[/c]
NigelDoes · 56-60, M
I understand and I apologize for not wording that better.🙂
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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Approximately 20% of married men seem to manage it according to surveys.
I have a ridiculously high sex drive, but I'm proud of never cheating!
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
@mrblueforyou: [c=#4C0073]I'm incapable of temporary relationships. If Im having sex with you its because i can see you as a permanent fixture in my life. Yeah my sexual appetites war with my moral boundaries, but my morals always win. Thank for the offer though.[/c]
I wasn't actually offering! No offence, I might one day lol,I can't make that decision yet.. I was just making suggestions 😉
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
@mrblueforyou: [c=#4C0073]lol cool[/c]
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
Not in my experiences.. A FEW- YES, but MOST - NO..
But the same is true of woman..
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
@VioletRayne: I hope that you are studying psychology.. My second wife did and was a very different marriage counselor for those having affairs..
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
[c=#4C0073]I am a counselor. MHP behavioral health psychology. My speciality is children with learning disabilities [/c]@polyandrym66:
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
@VioletRayne: My wife was, and I could tell that you had some studies under your belt, and used them.. My experience(s) do not line up with your understanding of woman in general.. But I understand our premise.. My exposure WAS to those who were needy and looking..
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I mean, yea of course
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
I've never cheated on my girlfriend... But she's awesome about intuitively giving me what I want and watching my reactions and changing her look with the seasons... It makes her different all the time.
bearinthebigbluehouse · 26-30, M
I'd say so. ᶘ ͡°ᴥ͡ °ᶅ
Boostedwun42 · 36-40, M
Could you keep your interest in the same dick? Keep it interesting and make your man crave you instead of just worrying with the kids and day to day life and not put forth the effort like most.
It's possible, but if the woman isn't sexual I don't think it's fair to require so long as love it not involved.
SW-User
Yes, if she keeps satisfying me, I'd have no need for someone else. And I'm quite easily satisfied.
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
uh oh here is another who's making asinine assumptions.
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
[c=#4C0073]What asinine assumptions have I made? I asked a genuine question. The reason being, I have often heard and read that men are genetically designed to be unfaithful. I would like to know if men agree with that statement.[/c]
oldnotbald · 70-79, M
Yes! It is so in my marriage of 36 years! (if you don't count fantasies as infidelity)
agreatday · 56-60, M
I was for 13 years. she cheated twice on me.
had to let her go after that.
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
[c=#4C0073]😔🤗🤗🤗🤗[/c]
I believe it is. I have been faithful to my girlfriends in the past.
wintersecret · 41-45, M
easy to say YES but its hard to be believed by many peoples.
SW-User
it is, if she remains being human..which is almost impossible
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
@anotherclone: [c=#4C0073]Women are raised differently than men. It is pushed upon us to get married. A woman can not receive success unless she is married with kids. You could be CEO of the world and have everything, but if you don't have a husband and children everyone looks at you like a sad soul.

A lot of women fall victim to this ideology. They think well I better get married while I'm young and can still attract a man. Also adding to that is the fact that by the time you get in your 30s the pool to choose from dwindles and it becomes harder to find a mate. SO women try to jump the gun. Afterwards they realize it was a stupid idea and now their stuck with an idiot they hate, but need to help raise the kids. it happens too often.[/c]
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
@VioletRayne: It is not ideology. It biologically. All women are like that all over the world.
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
@Mugin16: [c=#4C0073]I don't think so. I was never even concerned with dating or men in general in high school. I was focused on my career goals and what I wanted to accomplish. I honestly believe I would still be a virgin today if it wasn't for running into my ex-fiance.[/c]
SW-User
yes it is.. love is like that.
TheShanachie · 61-69, M
Yes it is possible,very much so.
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ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
It has been done
Jasondf · M
Yes of coarse!
tynamite · 31-35, M
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I'd think so.
Fitdom · 31-35, M
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elVato · 46-50, M
walabby · 61-69, M
Out of all the people that I know, One guy has cheated on his wife. Four wives have been the cheaters on their husbands.. People cheat, regardless of gender..
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polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
REALLY @1980vim..? Good luck with that in real life...
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imnosaint · 31-35
😂 hall you're funny.. very i mean..😂
imnosaint · 31-35
sorry wasn't a joke! shoot...
VioletRayne · 31-35, F
@imnosaint: [c=#4C0073]I guess that's a no from you[/c]
imnosaint · 31-35
well its just a guess..
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
Yes. No question.
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
And just HOW OLD ARE YOU @LeftoverWax? Any REAL LIFE experiences yet?
Depends, but it happens.
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VioletRayne · 31-35, F
[c=#4C0073]I beg to differ. Even if the social consensus was toward rampant sexualism I would not participate. Some I believe are wired that way and I am one of those. I do not desire another when I am in a relationship. [/c]

 
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