Does real love really exist?

I've been wondering... If I really love a person, I would only want the best for them, right? So, if they tell me that they found someone new who is better for them than I am, I should be absolutely happy for them as I would only want the best. Truth is, I would be absolutely heartbroken and NOT happy for them. Did I really love that person then? Or did I love a potential and only became attached?

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FurryFace · 61-69, M

yes love really exists , when the Apostle Paul was asked what is love ? , he thought about for a second but also realized it easier to tell people what love wasn't , ha ha an easier way out i guess

LunaInvicta

Yeah. I don't know which bible verse that is. But a negative definition is not a definition.

FurryFace · 61-69, M

suiting the times i think , people needed to know the difference as love comes in many forms , shades and expressions , like the love for a Pet Cat may not be exactly the same as the love for your child although some view that with no difference so there are also many levels of love , there is also Spiritual love the may transcend physical love

DancingStarGoddess ·

Yes, unfortunately it seems to be that those who feel it deeply always manage to end up mismatched with those who do not or cannot do like wise, instead of being paired with people who fit with their respective mindsets, funny how that manages to happen so often. There are people who love and can't even be honest about it out of fear, etc, things are always off somehow. Wish more would just come out and speak their true hearts, and also that others would be receptive to that or at least more accepting or tolerant of it.

SW-User

If his relationship with you is any indication, he will be on to someone else soon.

That person wasn't ready to love as deep as you.

SW-User

It does.

NobodyFrvr · 31-35, M

no you did love that person. only to the extent that you can love. love ofcourse can go much deeper than that. but anyone can only love to the extent of who they are.

BearDownChicago · 41-45, M

I believe true love exists. Otherwise I would have left my intimateless marriage long ago. But I couldn't imagine my life without her so there ya go :)

NigelDoes · 56-60, M

It sounds to me like you really loved that person and he or she broke you heart.

LunaInvicta

No, this was hypothetical, to illustrate what I mean. My point being that real love (=unconditional love), as I understand, is rare. If I really loved them I'd be happy for them if they are happy. If I can only be happy for them as long as they are with me, it is conditional love.

NigelDoes · 56-60, M

Glad to read that! :-) It's an excellent question and I think most of us would have the same dilemma in that situation.

LoveChild · 26-30, F

Don't overthink it. If only one loves the other it isn't love.

Firespirit · 26-30, M

Well depends how you define real

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