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I'm confused

There's this one person at Starbucks that's a man that dresses like a woman and he's there EVERY SINGLE TIME that I've been there. I go there once or maybe twice a week. When I come in he's like 👀👀👀👀 and I usually just like give a slight smile of acknowledgment and then just look at my phone or whatever is around BUT

He always follows me around the place so wherever I sit down he sits in a position where he can watch me, which I don't really mind, but it's the fact that he moves from his original spot which is like across the place& it's only once I've come in and sat

Today I went there 30 min before work and got a coffee and sat down with it and he got up and STARED ME DOWN while pacing by me 3 different times, looking into my eyes as he passed by, and I had no idea how to react.

Idk what this means should I say something? He's here all day every day I think he has a mental disorder like ...idk schizophrenia or something, I just don't know what he wants or maybe he's really lonely...it's kind of sad. What should I do...?

UPDATE: I sat with him a couple days ago and we talked! He's normal, just lonely
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RachaelRider · 46-50, F
He may have a mental disorder, he may be attracted to you, or he may be looking for acceptance for his cross dressing. Many male cross dressers go through life never being accepted by the people they care about the most simply because they dress feminine.
My husband is a cross dresser and was long before we met. I fully support his dressing and help him with it.
RachaelRider · 46-50, F
@AFlowerThatBloomedInAdversity: You don't sound conceited at all. There's no doubt he finds you attractive. It sounds like that he has a crush on you and to the point to where he wants to emulate your every movement. He may be trying to impress you by copying your movements.
Many cross dressers don't want to be female, they just have a very strong feminine side and dressing is the way that feminine side emerges in them. Most cross dressers are 100% straight. They are very sensitive and compassionate as a result of being in contact with their feminine side.
Summergirly · 26-30, F
Interesting. Thank you
RachaelRider · 46-50, F
@AFlowerThatBloomedInAdversity: My husband is very much in touch with his feminine side. And we enjoy that very much as a married couple.
ALT4554 · F
Watch him closely. Find out what car he drives. License plate. Does he stare at other women. Go at different times. If he's there he lives by you and can see your front door.
Summergirly · 26-30, F
I don't want him to see that I'm watching him or anything because then he might be more inclined to watch me...
ALT4554 · F
@AFlowerThatBloomedInAdversity: So be stealth. Cops won't do anything.
Summergirly · 26-30, F
He definitely lives near there but I don't.. Like a 15 minute drive
I wouldn't make eye contact with him
NineLives · 41-45, F
I think that you should just make an innocent comment to him like, "Wow, it is cold outside today!" and then just see where it goes from there.
His responses should tell you whether he is weird or not.
Summergirly · 26-30, F
True! Thank you
DomSteve · 26-30, M
If you're interested in him, approach him and talk to him... otherwise, he's not breaking any laws... tell the barista he is creeping you out and go to another Starbucks. The barista should tell mgmt and a loitering clause should be enforced.
NigelDoes · 56-60, M
That's creepy and disturbing. I would straight up ask him why the fuck he's doing that.
Summergirly · 26-30, F
@NigelDoes: I feel like they know that he's there because he actually never ever leaves the building
Summergirly · 26-30, F
He somehow affords coffees though and he has an iPhone with a purple case .... So I don't know
NigelDoes · 56-60, M
Talk to the Manager. You do NOT need to put up with this creep.
JackNJ · 46-50, M
When he gets up and moves closer to you get up and move and see if he follows
Summergirly · 26-30, F
I have and he does
JackNJ · 46-50, M
That's creepy
Summergirly · 26-30, F
@JackNJ: I know. It's kind of crazy.
ALT4554 · F
Sounds like a serial killer.
ALT4554 · F
You can't see serial killers. They will charm you and be mysterious. You have to ask yourself why the intense interest in you. Why hasn't he talked to you. Just stared.... ask the baristas about him.
Summergirly · 26-30, F
@mleok29: I would ask them but I feel like he'd hear me... He's always over my shoulder in there
Summergirly · 26-30, F
@mleok29: and what I kind of meant is.. I can see the pain in his eyes that makes me think he has feelings. I have seen the same pain in the eyes of a guy friend from school and he actually killed himself this past Monday.... He was just in high school
Unlearn · 41-45, M
Do others see him too? I hope it's not only you who sees him...
Summergirly · 26-30, F
Yeah they do. I've seen many people acknowledge him lol..: and I sat and talked with him the other day, its all good

That would be terrifying though if I was the only one seeing him
Serenitree · F
Tell management he's stalking you.


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