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Has my ex tapped into my phone?

So I met my ex a couple weeks ago, where I stayed at his hotel for a couple nights. Nothing happened and I fell asleep first both nights. Its important to note he is extremely good with technology, he can do coding and repairs phones for a living. I have previously talked to a lawyer on my snapchat about some of my issues, in which I really don't remember telling my ex about. So this was our convo:
• Him: 'what was that lawyers name again?' • • Me: 'what? I don't remember telling you about him. How did you know?'
• 'I have my ways'.
• 'how?'
• I'm Jesus'
• 'no please tell me!'
• *he keeps saying he's not gonna tell me*
• 'lol did you tap into my phone or something?😂'
• 'yes'.
• 'are you serious?'
• 'yes.'
• 'how many other people do you do this to?'
• 'only you. Gotta keep my wife in check'
• 'you're crazy'
• 'yup😊😘'
• *begs him to untap for ages*
• *he keeps saying no*
• 'I'm going to have to tell my mum because ive stuck stickers on the camera and she's gonna ask'
• 'take the stickers off.'
• *keeps asking him to untap*
• 'I didn't tap into your phone.'
It didn't sound like a joke and it really feels like something he would do. On a call I had the other day there was this other noise that lasted 3 secs on the line but my mum didn't hear it, but then again those phone issues can happen to anyone. When he told me he said uncover the camera (the phone was on my bed so the back camera was covered and I was typing laying by it and stretching my hand out. I'm really confused and suspicious, do you think he has?😩 how can I find out otherwise?
Shadowstep · 22-25, M
One way to take care of the solution, sadly, is to nuke the phone. Wipe out every last piece of data on the phone to make sure any software on it is gone. Get a new number and do not talk to him again because the more you contact him the more you trust him, eventually he will hack into your phone again and stay on it. There are software available that will allow you to hack into a phone and you would never know that it's hacked, I'm really sorry this happened to you but sometimes you have to do things that are really hard to get through
Shadowstep · 22-25, M
You're definitely not welcome now if you'll excuse me I'll hack into your ex's phone to see what he's been through tapping into your phone so I can do a reverse tap and get inside your phone 😂😂😂
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
@Shadowstep: 😂 try me, imma come for you
Shadowstep · 22-25, M
Thou shan't find my booty! I'm hiding in a random island hidden in the sand! With no "X" marks the spot marking!
LifeisReal · 31-35, M
Make some fake msgs with people and email about certain topics. On emails, talk about red things, on apps like instagram or snapchat private msgs, talk about blue personal things. For phone texting, talk about purple personal things. See if you could narrow down which segment of your phone he's watching or you'd have to replace the entire phone, even the SIM card where your personal phone number is stored. Try these tests to narrow down a problem. Keep each color/topic unrelated to the other colors/topics. He'll surely reply to something related to one color/topic and you could either not use that app/text/phone anymore or accept the stalker in your life forever and feel violated. Last worst case scenario, talk to police about your personal msgs and the msgs he sends a few minutes later. That would really make him stop spying on you. Spying means he doesn't trust you.
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Thank you aha 😊 Luckily I got an new phone but if it ever happens again I'll take that advice thanks!
LifeisReal · 31-35, M
Good, but replace the SIM care too, just in case. You will get a new number, but you'll be protected privately.
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
@LifeisReal: yeah I've got another SIM card and number so it's all good 😊
Th1nkF1rst · 70-79, M
He could easily download an app to your phone to "follow" you and there may be many other ways.

IF he still pays the Bill for your phone, he can do anything he wants, including knowing every number you call and every text you send. Parental controls can be abused!

I suggest a new phone or simply take it to a phone store with good techs and have them save all of your contacts and pics, then Wipe it Clean and reload from scratch any apps you want/need.
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
That's what ive searched up and I looked at my apps and there's nothing new! Oh I see, luckily he has nothing to do with my phone, my parents got it for me and pay for it. Okay, thank you:)
Th1nkF1rst · 70-79, M
He's a Controlling Asswipe... He's purposely Bullshitting You!

I'll guess this is just His Typical asinine Emotional Abuse behavior and he gets off by scaring you and lying to bolster his ego.
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
@Th1nkF1rst: Yeahh :/ I feel stupid for thinking it was caring.. I still kinda feel like it is
SW-User
That's fucking creepy.
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Funny thing is 5 minutes after ive posted this he's snapchatted me
ajsk13 · 51-55, M
also if your using yahoo,gmail and such ,go online and see if he's added a extra passcode to the accounts ,you can delete it and change all your passwords
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Yeah good point! Thank you:)
ajsk13 · 51-55, M
your welcome
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
Wipe the phone.
If you do a factory reset, it should take care of any hidden apps he may have put on there. It worked for me.

Also, never fall asleep around people you can't trust.
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Ahh okay. Glad to know I'm not the only one who's been through this also. Learnt that now aha
DaveLiam78 · 31-35, M
Wait. You stayed at his hotel? Did you use his wifi? Do you know that if u browse using hotels wifi that ur information and access is unsecured
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Yeah, and his wifi? I used the hotels wifi. I didn't know and I'm not sure what that means still😁
DaveLiam78 · 31-35, M
@Itsprincess: yeah using public wifi is not safe. It's like saying hey guys come on in. I trust you
BeardedDoc · 31-35, M
Just read your past few stories. I'm sorry but come on, wtf is wrong with you? Your posts about him flying to london, and all the same answers about him being a horrible human being, yet you still meet with him? I realize that abusive relationships are mind control and hard for people to get out of them, but it is hard to have sympathy. We will tell you what to do and you will do whatever he wants/says. Why even ask us?
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
When you love someone, you don't just stop loving them when they make mistakes. That would mean you never loved them. Who says I have never listened to what people on here have said? You don't know that if I didn't have the advice off of people on here, I'd probably be together with him right now and be blaming myself for his past behaviour. But I'm not. I'm his friend for now because I care about him. The amount of times ive ended it with him is a lot (due to the advice on here) but hes sucked me back in in the past. You won't ever understand what it's like, It was the only relationship ive ever been in so I'm still understanding how it works thanks to the people on here who are nice and have told me. I don't want to give up on somebody and I'm trying to figure out if it's worth fighting for that's all. I'm not asking for sympathy and I accept its my fault that I let this happen to me. Thanks for being honest though, tbh I need someone to tell me that I'm being stupid so that I can keep strong and firm on my decision to not be with him
BeardedDoc · 31-35, M
This makes me so sad. I wish I could help you.
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
@MrRandomguy10: if you're not being sarcastic then thank you
Danez · M
Maybe you ought to reformat and reset it to factory default just to be sure he can't have access to your conversations
Danez · M
He's basically stalking you. Too crazy.
ajsk13 · 51-55, M
sounds like he put a key logger on your phone , I'd change my number and reset the phone , and stay away from him,he's a stalker
Flenflyys · 31-35, F
Weird. And he said he did.
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Yeah exactly
DaveLiam78 · 31-35, M
Listen. Stop thinking about this ex or talking to him. If I were ur man. I would knock him out. And if u didn't listen to me that u should stay away from him and that u don't need to worry about him there would be a big problem.

He's the past. I don't care. What circumstance. He is the past. He's not good enough.
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DaveLiam78 · 31-35, M
Yeah that's not safe.
Barge0 · M
Id get a restraining order and get a new phone lol
Lolz this guy sounds insane! 😱😂

 
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