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Candycrrrush · 26-30, F
Great reply. And so true.
I have found in my long life that woman , if one is deserving of it(and sometimes if they are not!) forgive rather easily. But forget. NEVER..She will never forget! She may SAY she does. But she lies.
Men--they forget what they had for Dinner, unless it was a birthday or a celebration, last Sunday. So for him the opposite is true. He forgets easily, moves on. Next- and that may seem cold. But forgiveness to him , as a man, come very hard. he may SAY he does, but chances are, he has not forgiven.
I have found in my long life that woman , if one is deserving of it(and sometimes if they are not!) forgive rather easily. But forget. NEVER..She will never forget! She may SAY she does. But she lies.
Men--they forget what they had for Dinner, unless it was a birthday or a celebration, last Sunday. So for him the opposite is true. He forgets easily, moves on. Next- and that may seem cold. But forgiveness to him , as a man, come very hard. he may SAY he does, but chances are, he has not forgiven.
Hiraeth · F
I think that you've truly forgiven someone when you think of them and feel nothing but love or acceptance. Perhaps you might even wish for them to be happy. When you look upon your past or relive those terrible experiences, a hot mixture of deep pain, regret, and a jumble of other emotions might surge through your chest, but hatred should not be found in your heart. You should be able to move on through your life without allowing the heavy burdens of the past to chain your limbs. This person should not be a constant, dark presence thrumming in your mind. Instead, they should be a fleeting thought, flickering here and there but never overwhelming your head. There might be days when memories of them flood through your body, but as you look upon them, there should not be animosity or a dark need for vengeance boiling in your veins.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@HumblleJumblle: me also..
Forgiveness is releasing the hurt and pain inside you and not allowing it to damage your thoughts and ruin your experiences with others. It's also an act of grace to forgive the offender of his bad behavior . It doesn't mean you accept or minimize it, but you are no longer willing to harbor the bitterness and resentment any longer. You've forgiven someone completely when they no longer monopolize your thoughts or inference with your enjoyment of life.
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Bellavida · F
@Svarog: If that's what you wish them, that's fine too. No one forgives or forgets the same. Some people deserve to be disliked.
cycleman · 61-69, M
I am trying to Forgive one of my sisters and what she done to me ... it's a challenge not to feel or think of any vengeful wishes. In ways they feel good, but I can see how it is me thinking that is what is still keeping me to retain that negative anger. I am blocking myself from being Happy. least at times.
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If you don't hate them for it and don't hold it against them then..
If you have to ask or even keep remembering it then most likely you haven't forgiven it
If you have to ask or even keep remembering it then most likely you haven't forgiven it
JackNJ · 46-50, M
When I cut them out of my life and never see them again