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He won't leave me alone

This is the constant cycle: he imessages me on a new email or creates a new facebook account; I reply because I feel bad; I start to feel suicidal and depressed again; I block him after a few messages are exchanged; a few days later he iMessages me on a new email or creates a new facebook account. For example a week ago he created a new account and messaged me saying he had moved on and wants nothing more than to leave me alone but just wanted to make sure I'm okay. I replied that I was hurt by that and it turned into a little argument. I blocked him. Just stuff like that. He popped up again yesterday with a new iMessage and idk what it does to me, I feel so suicidal. I don't want to be here. When will this end I'm tired. The irony is I reply but if I don't reply I would feel guilty for not replying and he'd message me again being mean which would hurt me. There's no escape ive blocked him so many times and asked him to please leave me alone. Honestly I'm so tired of this, emotional abuse. He's been acting all nice this time and it's confusing. I don't know what he wants, I'm FED UP
wyolatex · 41-45, M
He wants to continue his control over you and assert himself into your life. Unfortunately, he knows how to push your buttons and will continue to do so until you stop giving him the satisfaction of knowing he is hurting you. You claim to know this and yet still feel guilty if you don't reply. Something will have to outweigh your compulsive need to engage with him...possibly use the pain you feel to be the catalyst to say no. You also have legal recourse to stop him.
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Oh right. Yeah I kinda realise that, I guess because of his bad past I make excuses for his actions. That's true, thank you😊
You need to give yourself permission not to respond. From what you describe, at this point it's just gratuitous. He either doesn't know what he wants, or he just wants to hurt you. Either way, doesn't it amount to the same thing in practice? You obviously need to go your own way.
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Yeah true. Thanks 😊
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Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Lmao, thank you 😄
NorthernRoses · 22-25, F
That really sucks.

I'd suggest not replying, even though it hurts you. He'll eventually get tired if he gets no response, hopefully. Continue blocking without engaging in any sort of conversation.

I'm sorry I don't have any better advice. 😞
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Alright, that's good advice though it's what I need to do, thank you😊
ScarletWitch · 26-30, F
You need to seriously stop communications otherwise will will continue. He will stop eventuality until he finds another girl to harass.
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Yeah I've blocked him and haven't spoken to him for a week. That's true, bless her 😁
SW-User
He is playing with you and feeding on this. Just stop all the communications.
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Okay. It's hard because I haven't moved on but yeah I'll stop
SW-User
@Itsprincess: hard at start, will get better. You have to take a firm step
Itsprincess · 22-25, F
@samdx008: Yess, thank you😊
SW-User
Block and ignore and repeat as necessary 😊
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Itsprincess · 22-25, F
Does it?😳

 
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