To All Normal Humans,

First, I don't know what lie you're living. Whatever it is,,is probably quite normal. Depending on what it is, you may just have to bite the bullet, tell all the people who might be affected by this that you aren't trying to turn their world upside down, but just to get yours right side up.

It isn't your responsibility to make everybody happy by being unhappy. The ones who matter will support you and help you through whatever difficulties you face. Those who won't, shouldn't matter.

Maybe you will never find normal, but you should be able to find happy.

The lie is being in a marriage I am not happy in at all.. I have tried to walk away several times but have failed. I can't keep lying to myself, but I don't want to destroy my child and husband anymore than I already have.. So do I stay and make everyone else happy? Or do I do what I want and hurt everyone I know?

What if I know for a fact I will not have anyone in my corner? Because that's how it has been. Christian orthodox doesn't bend very easily, not even for little old me. What if after all is said and done, I still haven't found my happy? What then?

I am so sorry. I do understand, though I can't relate. I wish there was a magic wand that could take you forward two years, after all the hullabaloo has died down, so you could see how it would all work out and make a decision based on that, but all you can do is make a choice.

Do you think your child and husband aren't being harmed by your daily unhappiness? Do you think they don't feel your discontent and feel to blame? Leaving may not be the answer, I don't know. But do you think staying without something done to change it is the right way?

Agreed.

thank you ma'am. that being said - I am not a diamond :)

Well, my friend, you are a very fine imitation of one.

Do you we ever find what we seek? Do we see what is in front of us? How does one perceive that which they cannot understand?

Hmm, well I guess you can't help me then..🙃

Let me know if you find out!

I don't think you'll be hearing from me then.. Doubt I ever will find out.

Sure it isn't.. It sure seems to be. We are always chasing the normalities in life. Always taught how to human, when to human, where to human..

and we never find them

Live life without regrets. Do you know how hard that is to actually do? Regret is an all consuming monster. I know...

💙. Yes, honey...i promise....just [b][i][c=#003BB2]BREATHE[/c][/i][/b]

I am constantly breathing.. Sighhhh.. Thanks lady.. (: I do hope you are right.

Call me Churchy...and let me know if I can help..Im just a message away! =)

That's our eternal struggle here.. everything is memory,experience based.. whatever we were told or we know is conditioned and partial.. which is separative.. I am this, you are that.. rarely we become humans, especially in deepest sorrow or most happy moment..where we forget ourselves.. otherwise it's always papers and stories.. so can we observe it and not let separate ourselves?

So no separation. Just be. In the now..

Yes Mam.. because the HOW implies method..means a practice or rule book..religions, psychology has already spoilt it through so many ideas about perfect human being..yet we are still broken, hating, confused..so no method..just be what you are without analysing...because the analyser is analysed.. when the thought doesn't interfere in looking at world, then perhaps we will know what we are.. it seems difficult ot out of the world, but it's amazing feeling... to be affecionate to other human being..no hatred..no jealousy..nothing..

Sign me up for that! Maybe...

I have done things that not everyone I know agrees with. Not easy but if you think it's right then it's ok :)

I understand. Everything is accepted and normal until those boundaries are pushed. Then all of a sudden everyone has their own opinion on how things should be done and everyone seems to know what's best for you. It's so lovely when everyone becomes involved.....

hahah yes very true but if it's worth it you have to push through and that can be very tough.

Are you a normal human being? Maybe they have some sort of special scent..?

I am just as clueless as you, to the end.

I don't define normal.. I just wonder what it is.

Useless!!