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Do you agree?

When someone we care about dies, it's easier to accept the loss because we can't do anything. But when they leave us by choice and continue to live their life, it's way harder, because we always feel like we could've prevented it all.
Picklebobble · 56-60, M
I think it's in a humans nature to make contact and to want that contact to continue for as long as possible.
When individuals choose to separate themselves and be single from the wider family. It has the others wondering about their own position within the safety of it.!
novembermoon · 51-55
I have felt this way before, yes. And when people leave, I pretend that they die. It is easier to cope with it. I guess it's self-preservation. There was once I had wanted to put his picture in a huge glass frame and place it on a table with some fruit offerings. I even thought of what fruits he would like to have. It helped a lot.
SweetDreamsRubi · 31-35, F
[c=#800055]no I still can't accept when a loved one dies..[/c]
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You're looking at it from how you feel and how you are affected
The truth is if someone leaves you yes you are sad but that is only you

If someone dies, you don't just grieve for your own loss but also that their life was cut short, that their partner/parent/sibling/child/friend has also lost them

Dying is so much more painful
TheMasterMan1 · 22-25, M
This post is just so, so true. I don't expect many people to get the latter part about people leaving by choice, since something like that probably hasn't happened to many of the people on here. But I seriously feel the pan of someone leaving by choice, it's almost as bad, maybe even worse than the pain of accepting loss. Especially if it was somebody whom was close to you, and knows a good lot about you... It's like "Oh yeah, you're not good enough anymore so bye". It's a heavy weight to carry sometimes..
Jay04Sch · 46-50, F
There is a certain closure to death. Both is hard to deal with and both hurts just as much. You can't compare the two really.
jackson55 · M
Somethings you just can't do anything about.
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I watched my best friend die
I was just his friend
In that room was his wife his mother his brother sisters brothers in law
My grief was nothing compared to theirs
I could accept never speaking to him again and not having him in my life if I knew he was still here and happy
DrWatson · 70-79, M
I think the pain of death is a "pure pain." The pain of someone breaking off a relationship with us is a lot messier. But I would not say that the pain of someone's death is necessarily less. I just think the two kinds of pain are different.
Fernie · F
When a loved one dies...it's awful to think you'll never see or talk to them again...no possibility...when they leave us...there's a chance we will see and talk to them again. I prefer the latter
jackson55 · M
@sweet, you can't carry that stuff around with you forever, it's best to let it go and move on with the good memories.
BondGirl84 · 36-40, F
the reserve is true too - sometimes u can prevent someone's death & sometimes u cannot prevent someone from leaving....
Make a decision ..."No Regrets"....AND...I can almost guarantee...there is a better person being prepared for you!
SW-User
Oh I'm sorry :(
Well I guess it depends on the person, and the way their loved one died / left
Listen to Picklebobbie...he is so wise!!!
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@MyohMy I know right? I always like his comments
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@InOtterWords I don't think I'm looking at it this way, I've lost some people but they were not the most important. You could be true though
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I forgot to mention I'm not talking about suicide

 
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