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My son (10) asked me to let him take a break from football next season, im not sure if I should push him to play or let him take a break?

He's been playing since he was 7. He whines about getting ready for practice sometimes but then loves practice and games. He plays really well and says he wants to play and then says he doesn't want to play.
I told him he could play any other sport if he'd like, take an art class or music class and he says he just wants to take a year break and go back to football after next year.

This past season their team didn't make it past quarter finals and I'm wondering if maybe that has something to do with his indecisiveness? I explained to him that not every season will be the best season ever and they had a lot of new kids last year that were still learning and the team functions as a whole.
Anyways my now 7yr old is playing and won't stop practice even in the house. My 10yr old helps him with his technique, and they watch a lot of football highlight reels on YouTube.
I told him even if he doesn't play he'll be with me at practices because my younger son is playing.
Partially I think he is trying to save us some cash because we have twins on the way.
He says "but who is going to help you with the babies if me and my brother are practicing?"
I had to remind him that the babies are MY responsibility and not his.

Anyways I don't want to push him if he genuinely lost interest but as much as he is into helping his brother, as much time he watches highlight reels on YouTube and even his own and his brothers highlight reels from his and his brothers games Im not sure he's ready to give up.
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I tell my son he HAS to pick two things. It can be anything. Swimming, music, art, gymnastics, anything.

It has helped him figure out what he wants and likes to do.

I think my son stopped playing football at 10. He basically figured out it was never going to be like tv or throwing the ball with me. I had no problem with him stopping the "sport."
KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F
@Kindheartedguy: if he wants to play flag he has until the end of January to decide.
But if he wants to bypass flag he had to mid/end of march to decided on tackle.
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My son loved flag football. I couldnt get him into a league but he'll do the YMCA classes.
KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F
as long as he's enjoying something is all that counts.
DaneeK · 31-35, F
only he can tell you. signs are there and he is not 100 committed to it. Be positive, but not pushy about it. If you do, you may regret it. Keep asking for his involvement and that includes help at home. Let him take pride in it. And, you encourage him along the way with a smile.
KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F
His involvement at home is not an issue.
He is very independent, and helpful.
I think his indecisiveness on whether or not to participate is the high cost of the program - he is trying to save us some money, and he doesn't need to worry about that because we are financially stable.

Football is pretty much his whole life. He watches it, he talks about it, he helps his little brother with his technique he is constantly talking about how to improve, but he thinks it's too expensive and is wondering if his participation will detract from the twins we have on the way.
KingofPizza2 · 36-40, M
He'll enjoy it more in general if it's actually his choice whether or not to participate.
KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F
I agree, The only thing I fear is him being all bummed out about not participating if he changes his mind after they close registration.
I told him to think about it. He has until March to decide.
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KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F
@OWTFWN: he doesn't want to earn it either. He wants us to use the registration money for the twins we are having.
We are already set for the things we need for the babies, but he thinks I haven't bought anything because I don't have the money- the real reason I haven't bought anything is because I've had many miscarriages and I don't want to buy anything until I reach viability.
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KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F
@OWTFWN: yes I've spoken to him and my 7 year old too. They both fully understand and have actually suffered through a few miscarriages with my husband and I as well.
He's still worried though, I think he's trying to be a protective big brother.
He has some time to decide
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
hm...... 😕

 
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