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I Have a Crush On Someone I Shouldn't

Someone please help me!
So i started working at this brand new store in october and unfortunately i am falling for my co-worker,Adam.
He is everything i'm looking for in a boyfriend...but after working together for a few weeks i found out he's taken.
To be clear i'm not that kind of woman that'd steal him or ruin their relationship,but i don't wanna let him go either.

His behavior is confusing,like he always come up to me and asks what's up even if he already asked that question 30 minutes earlier.
He also takes boxes out of my hand for no reason...i've noticed he only does this to me,and of course when i lift something semi-heavy he alwys gets mad at me for not asking him to help me.
I often catch him looking at me...
The other day he brought his coat to the warehouse and forced me to put it on,because he didn't want me to get cold.


Everytime he talks to me he looks deeply into my eyes,like he wants to get into my head... He always smiles and giggles when i tease him and I often feel him looking at me
He also touch me randomly or when our hands touches he never pulls it away,but an another co-worker sid he touches her back too...i've never seen do that to others though.He often says i am the nicest girl and he always tells me i do my job perfectly.

a few days ago i got mad at him and i was so mad i just straight up ignored him,he saw that i was nice to others and i was in a good mood but when he was in a room with me i barely talked to him and didn't look at him.
3 days past like that when he used my own medication on me,he did the exact same thing to me.When i was in the room with him he got really mad,like throwing boxes and stuff,everyone felt the tension between us...then he lost it and he asked me what's my problem etc.
We were yelling at eachother then he said he won't talk to me anymore,after my 30 min. break i went up to him and told him i was mad at him cuz he hurt me and it hurt beause he sid that thing and i expec more from him.He smiled and seemed like we are ok,but i wasn't sure so i texted him.
I apologized,told him i wasn't fair with him,he didn't text me back.
The next day he pulled me aside and told me he was busy and he left work at 11 pm,but he thinks i shouldn't have apologized cuz i was right.

the other confusing thing is tht we re the only ones at work that not friends on fb,i know it's silly but it seems like he kinda wnts distants due to his relationship but in the meantime he likes me.
At least that's what i think...


So my questions are: Do you guys think he likes me?What should i do?
I really don't want to give up on him.
p.s.: it seems like he isn't in love/ it's a super serious relationship( when they are talking on the phone it sounds like two friends were talking...
Madmonk · M
So what happened?
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
@Madmonk you know what happened.he is the guy whom left me on read
Madmonk · M
@Girlbehindthecurtain this is him huh? Hmm this is going on awhile
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
@Madmonk yep
Ginkofishin · 26-30, F
Honey, the only way to know if it's worth it TP pursue anything is to communicate with him.

You need to tell him you like him and ask to be in a relationship. If he's apprehensive, find out why. Does he love her or want to be with her? Or is he scared to leave or needs an out? If it's one of the last two, you've got a chance and should ask to pursue. If he says he loves her, even if he puts in a 'but I like you', leave him be. He won't leave his girlfriend.

Nothing will happen though if you don't communicate.

Now, I was in this same situation, except I had the boyfriend I wasn't in love with but was scared of leaving. It took me hanging out with my now boyfriend to figure out he was exactly what I wanted and needed, and that's what pushed me to make the best two decisions of my life.

Communications gonna be key. Maybe even see if he will meet up as friends outside of work to test the chemistry.
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
@ Ginkofishin thank you for the advice! :)

@ pdockal you are welcome and can't wait to chat!
76starships · 46-50, M
He likes you. No question. If you like him back, which it's clear you do, let him take you out sometime.
wudifu · 46-50, M
He doeant like to be ignored and yes he likes you..a lot..yes you should phone him or go and see him
bhatjc · 46-50, M
Just keep taking your time with him girl. Never know what might happen.
pdockal · 56-60, M
thanks for adding me ... hope we can send mail soon ... so that we can chat
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TJNewton · M
This story is almost 2 years old what has changed about it since then ?
Girlbehindthecurtain · 31-35, F
@TJNewton nothing really

 
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